Ballroom Dance > [social dancing] Increase your chances of getting asked

Discussion in 'Ballroom Dance' started by Dr Dance, Apr 27, 2014.

  1. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    it is my experience that men prefer to feel as though they are the better dancer in the pair...and that the less able they are to believe that, the less likely I will dance
     
  2. Hedwaite

    Hedwaite Well-Known Member

    Lol, men like to feel like they are, women want to know they are, maybe, hence the in-class "partner-teaching" a lot of them do.
     
  3. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    since I don't dance with women, I don't know how often they teach while dancing at socials....I know that I have had far too much of it from men at socials....and it hasn't become less frequent over time...which I think IS significant given the fact that there is not likely to be a man in this half of my state attending socials who has had as much quality instruction as I have had....I find it easier to simply do my best to satisfy whatever it is they think that I am not achieving without their information...I mean, who cares?...if I can do something that they think is more to their liking, why not?
     
  4. Hedwaite

    Hedwaite Well-Known Member

    I do dance with women sometimes through instruction, and if they're just sitting at socials, but even if you don't dance with women at socials, you might have observed it happening at socials. Without repeating anything (this time around- until next thread, I guess?), I guess it's just more about ego than ability for some of these situations.
     
  5. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    yea...I don't doubt that some women do it...I have just never seen it
     
  6. cornutt

    cornutt Well-Known Member

    As far as I'm concerned:
    1. Look like you want to dance. Don't hang out in the break room all night.
    2. Don't criticize your partners.
    3. Don't lean on your partner's frame.
    4. Have reasonable hygiene.

    All the rest is negotiable. Don't make it too complicated.

    Admittedly, your mileage may vary.
     
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  7. Hedwaite

    Hedwaite Well-Known Member

    Exactly- when, for whatever reason, I DO NOT want to dance something, I will head to the break room. There's only one guy who's socially oblivious, and will trot right after me (not just me- he's imprinted on one other teacher, too, and we take turns shoving each other in front of the train because we're warped harpies) and then haul me out and mop the cobwebs off the ceiling with me for four minutes and twenty-two seconds of, ironically, 'Leave Me Alone' by Natalie Imfuglia. I liked that song once. Now, I just go to my happy place with Sam Witwer's dimples, shiny objects, and fried mac n' cheese until it's over.
     
  8. Hedwaite

    Hedwaite Well-Known Member

    Although, now, I'm wondering if I smell bad. I carry body spray in my shoe-bag, but that's only because my shoes smell like curdled death when I take them off.
     
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  9. Loki

    Loki Well-Known Member

    Yes! That's how to describe my favorite old shoes - curdled death!
     
  10. tangomaniac

    tangomaniac Active Member

  11. SwayWithMe

    SwayWithMe Well-Known Member

    I try to grab newbies for the dances they just covered in the beginner class, bc once they see me dance it's all over. :( Silly.
     
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  12. ajiboyet

    ajiboyet Well-Known Member

    I saw this lady once. She was wearing a very fitted, very short dress that kept riding up. Excellent dancer she was, but I think I would feel uncomfortable WITH her if I were dancing with her.
     
  13. nikkitta

    nikkitta Well-Known Member

    You'd rather watch, I take it ;)
     
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  14. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    I would rather wear fitted than flared...in terms of not sharing more than I intend
     
  15. cornutt

    cornutt Well-Known Member

    Yeah, that's the problem... if I'm dancing with her, everyone can see except me! :p

    (Seriously... a tight-fitting skirt makes any smooth or standard difficult, especially tango.)
     
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  16. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    lol...not if you ride it up a bit:cool:
     
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  17. leee

    leee Well-Known Member

    I see we're getting PG-13!
     
  18. nikkitta

    nikkitta Well-Known Member

    as long as you're wearing panties... :D
     
  19. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

  20. ajiboyet

    ajiboyet Well-Known Member

    LOL. No. I would feel like I have to dance lightly and lead lightly to prevent the dress from riding too much...or other worse mishaps.

    Fitted can work if it's not too short.

    Anything that binds your thighs together makes ANY dance difficult. I saw a competition video once where this lady wore a dress like we're talking about. It was quite a sight when the time came to jive.
     

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