When my partner Sherri and I were recently e mailing each other to meet at a specified dance, she included this message, "I may bring along a non dancing friend 'to observe'." I was immediately on "yellow alert." But I couldn't resist teasing her a bit. "Is she hawt?" "Say WHAT?" "You know... is she smokin'?" "She's very shy but friendly." Her name was Joan. And she did impress me as being very nice and sweet. But it seemed odd to me that she showed up, but wouldn't dance. I offered to dance a merengue with her. But she politely declined. I took it in stride and I was not put upon. "It's been years since I was on the dance floor," she explained. Perhaps Joan had a poor experience when she was last "on the dance floor." Bad events can color our opinions. I give Sherri lots of credit here... She was very attentive to her friend. But when Sherri and I danced, Joan just sat there looking very bored. Sherri offered to show Joan "a few basic steps." But Joan was not having any of it. As I could have predicted, they both left early. I want to conclude that Joan had an interesting time. But I only observed her being detached and disinterested. Sherri and I were both good ambassadors that night. I was on my best behavior. But I believe that dancing may not be Joan's thing. To each her own. I'll get some feedback later from Sherri about Joan's "visit." Inviting non dancing friends to a social dance: good idea or bad idea?