Ballroom Dance > [social dancing] When it's okay to criticize your partner

Discussion in 'Ballroom Dance' started by Dr Dance, Dec 7, 2014.

  1. Dr Dance

    Dr Dance Well-Known Member

    Maybe it just needs bacon.

    There are indeed passionate responses to this thread topic. Unless you are using a social dance for practice (I do with my partner), I prefer to ascribe fun to social dance. Unless you like to troll your partner, criticisms are not fun. Ladies were very patient with me when I was new to dance. I only consider it to be fair to extend newer followers the same courtesy.
  2. danceronice

    danceronice Well-Known Member

    I've seen it done to Larinda. Seen it done to many female pros. Had it done to me by guys I knew had maybe five lessons compared to five years on my end. I basically won't offer advice unless asked (and that's usually newbies who know it asking if something was all right and the answer is always "It was fine!") At most, I'll maybe ask to try something again if I didn't get the lead and it could be anyone's fault.
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  3. Joe

    Joe Well-Known Member

    I see. Well, his first mistake was using the words "tension" and "push" together. Pushing isn't tension--it's compression.
  4. tangomaniac

    tangomaniac Active Member

    He used "resistance" NOT "tension" so he didn't make a mistake. Besides, I was there when he said it.
  5. twnkltoz

    twnkltoz Well-Known Member

    I hate the word "resistance" in dance. It always gets misinterpreted. I like "tone" or "engagement."
  6. Rhythmdancer

    Rhythmdancer Well-Known Member

    That's part of the reason why it can be problematic to give critiques because there really isn't a uniform understanding of terms across people and dance styles. Two people can be saying the same exact thing but using different terms and get into a major disagreement on the floor.
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  7. tangomaniac

    tangomaniac Active Member

    I don't like the word "resistance" either but it's used more frequently than "tone."
  8. twnkltoz

    twnkltoz Well-Known Member

    Exactly. Or someone picks up a bad habit because they misunderstood (or just plain got bad advice they understood perfectly).
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  9. Dr Dance

    Dr Dance Well-Known Member

  10. leee

    leee Well-Known Member

    Any nerd worth their salt knows that Trek nicked that line from Doctor Who.
  11. twnkltoz

    twnkltoz Well-Known Member

    Exterminate! Exterminate! Do not deviate!
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  12. Joe

    Joe Well-Known Member

    So why did you use the word "tension?"
  13. wooh

    wooh Well-Known Member

    Maybe because he was making an example of how one word can cause a misunderstanding. Much like giving unwanted advice on the dance floor.
  14. tangomaniac

    tangomaniac Active Member

    You used "tension" in your post. Daniel didn't use the word "tension."
  15. IndyLady

    IndyLady Well-Known Member

    Wooh, you are killing it in this thread.
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  16. Loki

    Loki Well-Known Member

    True dat!
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  17. Joe

    Joe Well-Known Member

    Uh, reading for comprehension, much? YOU used the word "tension."

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  18. tangomaniac

    tangomaniac Active Member

    Wooh wrote:
    Maybe because he was making an example of how one word can cause a misunderstanding. Much like giving unwanted advice on the dance floor.

    Thank you Wooh.
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  19. Rhythmdancer

    Rhythmdancer Well-Known Member


    There might be some life left in that horse!
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  20. legato

    legato Active Member

    :hilarious: ha ha...someone should do this in figures with dance attire, just for DF!
    when is it ok to criticize your social dance partner?
    may i suggest never, may i ask if never works for you?
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