General Dance Discussion > Taking Ballroom to the Bedroom

Discussion in 'General Dance Discussion' started by rbazsz, Oct 20, 2011.

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  1. pygmalion

    pygmalion Well-Known Member

    Insightful as always, max.
  2. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    further proving the point that it isn't what you say, it is how you say it
  3. freeageless

    freeageless Active Member

    How does one become "lovable," "lust worthy," and not look "like one who is in desperate search of either." Ah that is the task.
  4. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    by not being caring more for the other than oneself, with no ulterior knowing that one is sufficient on their own and not being walking in humilty, dignity and self-respect, none of which can simply be being a giver instead of a taker.....
  5. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    (that is my opinon, though I am making no claim as to my own lovability or lustability...based only what I see in those who I find attractive...and on the mistakes I have made)
  6. danceronice

    danceronice Well-Known Member

    "Not coming across as desperate" is pretty high on the list.

    As is "not being out for casual sex and one-night stands." That's VERY unattractive to the majority of women.
  7. sigurd

    sigurd New Member

    Honestly, this is the weirdest post I have ever come across here.

    Why don't we think of the question the other way?

    "Tell me. I wonder why the lady on the street is not jumping on me. I am a wall street banker making 7 figures salary. I have a mansion in Long Island. I usually drive my Ferriei Enzo to commute. I dress only from Giorgio Armani and have many golden diamond Rolex. I walk around Manhattan in class and know many friend in the high place. So tell me, why are the women knocking on my car door and putting off their clothes? Why isn't man with status and money translate to bedding?"

    It reminds me a TV program in US called something like "will you marry a millionaire" many years ago.

    Well, I am sure there are SOME women in the world are single mindedly lust after money. As much as SOME women are single mindedly lust after people with dance skill. You just have to find them in the right place. Those women do not necessarily be found in tea dance.
  8. danceronice

    danceronice Well-Known Member

    An Enzo? Hah. Call me when he as a Bentley Supersports or a Veyron. ;)

    (Seriously, good point. It's not about the external trappings, be it dance or money. There are SOME women, certainly, who'll bed men for just that, but it's hardly the majority.)

    Though going back to the comment about male pros having it made, setting aside that's not true, most male teachers do have another advantage besides dance ability when it comes to appearing appealing: They all tend to be masters of personal hygeine. I have known teachers who were smokers and dancing with them I COULDN'T TELL, they're that careful.
  9. toothlesstiger

    toothlesstiger Well-Known Member

    I would have to add to that that a successful male dance teacher has to have good social skills, or they would not be successful. And the role has something to do with it. When I was teaching, I got hit on by ladies that probably wouldn't have given me the time of day, otherwise.
    (To be clear, dating students is on my personal list of bad things for a teacher to do.)
  10. Peaches

    Peaches Well-Known Member

    "What's wrong with a kiss, boy? Hmm? Why not start her off with a nice kiss? You don't have to go leaping straight for the clitoris like a bull at a gate."'s just what keeps coming to mind in this thread... :D
  11. samina

    samina Well-Known Member

    rbazsz, you're tongue in cheek, right?

    as jane austen would say, "i am all astonishment". :tongue:

    although i admit dancing & canoodling have their shared aspects, lordalmighty but someone's life drama would escalate exponentially if they started mixing the two. as some here on the forum well know. :cool:
  12. samina

    samina Well-Known Member

    i know, right? lolz...has to be a joke.
  13. rbazsz

    rbazsz New Member

    I find it surprising that several posters here deny the obvious truth that male dance pros have bountiful love lives. Isn't that one of the fringe benefits of being a male dance pro?

    Surely it's not uncommon for male pros to be propositioned by female dancers.
  14. Larinda McRaven

    Larinda McRaven Site Moderator Staff Member

    1) You aren't a pro, so you cannot comment on the "obvious truth". You can share your "perceived truth" though. And those that ARE pros will tell you that your perception does not match OUR obvious reality.

    2) Being propositioned because oneis a pro and can dance does not amount to "bountiful love lives", it amounts to feeling like a hired gigolo or feeling used. And often the aspect of being propositioned by students (which in reality is not THAT common) can lead to DESTRUCTION of a real love life, when overly aggressive pursuers don't respect the pros real love life that doesn't include said pursuer. In REALITY it often makes a pros love life more complicated and if not worse.

    My ex was AGGRESSIVELY pursued by one student. And that was one of the worst eras in our relationship. His desire to smooth things over in order to keep a champ level student and my desire to kick the everloving crap out of her when ever she made obvious passes at him, even in front of me, made for some tumultuous times. In the end it was the pursuer that lost out, yet our relationship/lovelife was distrustful and tentative for quite some time.

    Again, you have no idea what you are talking about. But it must be interesting to live in that head of yours... it is quite dramatic and fanciful in there.
  15. clumsy fellow

    clumsy fellow Active Member

    Already told him; it's the car he drives
  16. madmaximus

    madmaximus Well-Known Member


    (Forgot to mention---almost ruined a computer with the tea I was drinking while I was reading your earlier post...)

  17. wonderwoman

    wonderwoman Well-Known Member

    Hmmm so much to say to this...
  18. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    and again, attraction to one's pro and asking them for sex or even pursuing them aggressively are two very different things...
  19. rbazsz

    rbazsz New Member

    It might be interesting to hear from some male pros on this subject.

    I used the term "love life" because it sounds less crude than "sex life". Of course they are two different things, and that might have led to some misunderstandings about what I wrote. I am sure that the vast majority of males would agree that having a bountiful sex life is not a negative thing as you you portray.

    Hmmmmmm. That's an ugly scenario I haven't considered. I'm guessing since he is your "ex" the story didn't have a good ending. I'm sorry to hear that.

    What you wrote shows that there is a serious downside to being pursued. I imagine it's difficult for male pros to have serious relationships because their partners are going to be suspicious all the time.

    But, doesn't what you wrote tend to confirm my contention that female dancers pursue male pros for the purpose of sex?
  20. rbazsz

    rbazsz New Member

    I doubt women in the studio notice what kind of car I drive.
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