Tango Argentino > Tango and kissing strangers

Discussion in 'Tango Argentino' started by MadamSamba, May 22, 2004.

  1. MadamSamba

    MadamSamba Member

    Whether it's because tango comes from Argentina where the people are warm and wonderful and not averse to a peck on the cheek or because tango dancers can be darn fiery at times, I'm wondering whether anyone else has noticed how many kisses and introductions from strangers one receives on a typical night out tangoing?

    I dance several markedly different styles, and while dancers are amazingly warm and friendly people, in tango, no matter where I go, people generally kiss you when leaving (whether you know them or not) or at least give you a very warm handshake, like an old friend.

    Is it just us Aussie tanguera/os or is that typical of the global tango scene? Perhaps you dance another style that is equally embracing of its dancers?
     
  2. Laura

    Laura New Member

    Sounds like fun! Maybe if people were more kissy where I'd live I'd go social dancing more. :) You have to be pretty relaxed and happy to go around kissing strangers, I think that would be a good thing in a number of scenes!
     
  3. Sagitta

    Sagitta Well-Known Member

    Depends on the people I guess. I tend to go with the flow, and I've noticed that I tend to do the hug-kiss thing with my latin friends but not really with my American ones.
     
  4. cocodrilo

    cocodrilo New Member

    Dunno about the tango scene, but all my buddies here from South America, as well as friends in Germany, greet my with kisses. It's a nice custom(if you like being kissed! :p ).
     
  5. etchuck

    etchuck New Member

    Unless it's part of the culture, usually here in the states you don't see that. Maybe it's just the Latin American/European thing to do since that sort of kissing among familiar people is just culturally ingrained.

    I just hope that some creepy dance person doesn't take pecks on the cheek as anything more than that. Something tells me many creepy dance people lack that sort of cultural background.
     
  6. DancePoet

    DancePoet Well-Known Member

    If a friend hasn't shown up for a social dance in awhile, I've been known to greet them with a handshake or a hug. Guys get the handshake, gals get the hug. Kisses? Hmmm...I guess being from America we tend to be careful about who we are kissing, although a quick peck on the cheek could sometimes be ok.
     
  7. samba ajr

    samba ajr New Member

    Once you've danced with someone, they aren't a stranger any more, n'est pas? :wink:

    At the regular socials I go to (not AT) there are always certain folks who get the hug/kiss coming and going. Usually on leaving, I always try to thank the host(s) and they (the gentlemen) usually initiate the handshake-hug-kiss. At a newer venue with several new friends (and several old ones) I felt compelled to go around the room and hug/kiss at least 6 people so I could get out the door!

    Dancers are the friendliest people, aren't they.
     
  8. etchuck

    etchuck New Member

    Well, my threshhold of "stranger" is when I finally recognize their face and remember their names. I have a much harder time remembering names than faces (which when I was younger, I had the reverse problem oddly enough).
     
  9. Sagitta

    Sagitta Well-Known Member

    Okay the kisses I'm talking about are the kisses in the air while being cheek to cheek. What kisses are you guys talking about? :?
     
  10. Laura

    Laura New Member

    I've been talking about those cheek-to-cheek air kisses and also pecks on the cheek, that's all.
     
  11. SDsalsaguy

    SDsalsaguy Administrator Staff Member

    I find this to be the norm in my salsa scene, not with strangers but with friends and/or people who I've shared a few good dances with... but I'm also cognizant of how different this is from the dynamics in the local ballroom scene. I can remember once, for instance, bumping into a you woman I knew from the college DanceSport team out at one of the local salsa clubs and, as she was leaving, going to give her a (cheek) kiss goodbyr. We were in the salsa setting so that just came naturally to me but, based on her reaction, I realized how much I'd surprised her and that wasn't her/our typical comfort zone.
     
  12. Genesius Redux

    Genesius Redux New Member

    Oh, good Lord, I can't stand that affected nonsense. You might as well put your cheeks together and say "Kisskiss!" :roll:
     
  13. TemptressToo

    TemptressToo Member

    Um....this topic is a little too close for comfort. I'll leave it at that.
     
  14. SDsalsaguy

    SDsalsaguy Administrator Staff Member

    :shock: :oops: :oops: :oops: :wink:
     
  15. samba ajr

    samba ajr New Member

    Me too!
     
  16. cocodrilo

    cocodrilo New Member

    This is a coincidence- I am teaching a university cross-cultural communication class and we got to the subject of different cultures kissing. When we got to a photo of two Moroccan guys who were kissing, everyone went "Ewwwwwwwww!". :lol:
     
  17. DancePoet

    DancePoet Well-Known Member

    Ok...and I felt the humor over on the bra thread was funny! Lol!
     
  18. dancin/dj

    dancin/dj Member

    depends on your comfort level,im italian we been doing the kiss thing for eons,but i sho-nuff dont want just anybody pecking me-just because.there are some funky people out and about :? lol
     
  19. squirrel

    squirrel New Member

    :) Here we kiss a lot... people we have just met... and it's a kiss on the cheek, not just a pretense... :) but we're European and Latin, so... we can be forgiven... even guys kiss sometimes (not in the club though - for them it's a hand shake or a hug for somebody you haven't seen in a long time)...
    I don't see anything wrong in kissing... and I don't see anything wrong in not kissing...
     
  20. pygmalion

    pygmalion Well-Known Member

    Yes. It freaked me out the first time I went to Europe on business, and all my coworkers kissed me on both cheeks. That was just their way of greeting. *shrug* It's pretty nice, really. 8)
     

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