That's pretty much what I've been trying to say. The only reason its from the follower's perspective about leaders is because we have 2 threads going.. one for what makes a man choose a partner, and what makes a woman choose a partner. So since the other thread was gender specific based on women wondering how important looks are to men, I deliberately made this one to divide by gender as well, and not by dance role. It is only because of the common social pattern in dancing that it became about leaders and followers. I was trying to make it a clue for MEN about what is important to WOMEN. The women who chimed in all happen to be primarily followers, but that wasn't my primary intention.