The effort you ladies are making to get this guy to unwind is admirable. My feeling is that part of the lead partner's job is to make the woman look good. Too many guys are focused on themselves rather than their partners, especially in Salsa and Ballroom Latin. I see it all the time, a kind of "look at how great I am" kind of dancing where they don't look at the woman because they are too busy thinking about how good they look. When they make an effort to make the woman look good then it also makes them look good. I wish more guys would get this about dance. The whole experience becomes that much richer. For me, whether I dance with my wife or someone else, I can't help but be grinning like crazy, looking my partner in the eye every chance I get because it's just so darn much fun to see them looking so good and enjoying themselves so much. You ladies are all so beautiful when you dance it's the greatest thing in the world to be sharing that moment, to have the privilege to be your partner. I just can't understand guys who don't get that.