I am looking for some feedback to get me past uncomfortable feelings I have regarding my wife ballroom dancing with other men in a performance setting. Social dancing and performance dancing seem so different. The amount of physical contact is very different. My wife and I both enjoy dancing and attend group classes where we dance with others. I have no uncomfortable feelings with this. When it comes to performance dancing, the social norms of space and contact seem to get thrown out the door. If we were to take Quickstep group lessons it would be one thing. If my wife is doing private lessons to prepare for a Quickstep routine at an event, the amount of contact between my wife and the instructor is very uncomfortable for me. She has shown me how they hold each other. How there hips and torsos are connected. How there legs are intertwined. Based on my upbringing, my views on acceptable personal space and contact, social norms, this just feels so wrong. My wife is really enjoying dancing with me now that I have started and she really enjoys dancing with her instructor/partner for the routine they are doing. I want to be totally supportive of my wife, but need to be able to understand and get past my feelings to be able to do so. I am not jealous of my wife and I do not suspect any inappropriate behavior. It is simply that I cannot get over the amount of physical contact that my wife is having with another man. I welcome your feedback.