I was chatting with a friend of mine and a couple of interesting question came up and i'm wondering what everyone's take on the following subjects: Group classes When you are told to take a partner, do you just grab the closest guy/girl or do you wait for married couples and fixed dance partners to take partners first and then grab whomever is left over ? Do you pay attention to height differences/dance experience when you grab a guy/girl ? Do you introduce yourself if you don't know one another ? What if you are dancing/practicing with someone that just doesn't get the move, do you call the instructor over or do you ask the instructor to change partners or do you try to help the person ? Private lessons What unwritten rules do you follow for privates ? For those who have been with an instructor for quite some time (say, 6 months+): What do you think make your student-instructor working relationship work/tick ? Obviously both of you are applying the basic rules of being on time, etc. I am looking for anything else that you might be doing, maybe unconsciously, to have a successful working relationship. Practice parties if your instructor is at the party, do you ask him/her to dance or do you wait for him/her to ask you ? Most of us try not to walk across the floor during the dance but rather along the wall. Other social dancing parties Someone wearing proper dance shoes is probably a serious dancer, do you ever pay attention to the shoes that someone is wearing before asking them to dance? Do you normally ask if someone dances international or american style ? Is it ok to ask the DJ to play a specific song if they have it ? any unwritten rules that applies here ? Any other unwritten rules that you are applying that i haven't mentioned or alluded to in the dancing scene ?