Ok, this one has been eating at me for a while now… what the #$@%&! is up with the aggressiveness I am seeing in some dancers these days??? A couple of cases: (1) One of the customs here is a birthday dance, where a bunch of the women get in a circle around and dance with the birthday boy, or a bunch of guys get in a circle around and dance with the birthday girl. When it’s a guy’s birthday he’s the one doing the leading so that’s not really what’s bugging me, so let me turn to when it’s a woman’s birthday. To my way of thinking the purpose of such a dance – even more then usually – should be to show off the woman who’s birthday it is. Over the past two weekends I’ve watched guys hog the woman (meaning not pass her to another guy in the circle) and even jump in a second time before all the other guys have danced with her yet. I also see several guys (pretty much the same ones noted above) throwing tricks, etc., in – left and right – trying to show off their own "dancing." (2) I watched a really interesting preliminary round of a contest earlier tonight (its about 2:40am now) – there were 4 couples who all danced really different styles. I could have switched one of the two couples that advanced to the final, but I can also see how the judges marked it as they did. What I thought was just utterly atrocious, however, was the “4th” couple. There was practically no real dancing in their routine, but, rather, an ongoing series of tricks. While some of these could have been impressive in there own right, the manner in which the leader pretty much flung around his partner as if she was a rag doll was really abhorrent. Performance/competition or not, what ever happened to dancing with your partner? Where does this type of attitude come from? And why, unfortunately, does it seem to be growing?