General Dance Discussion > Who gets asked to dance

Discussion in 'General Dance Discussion' started by suburbaknght, Dec 9, 2007.

  1. Gorme

    Gorme Active Member

    Dressing in brighter colors and/or more provocative cuts do help in attracting attention. For the ladies who dance well, they do not need to do this as their actions will attract the attention from the right guys. For those who are not as skilled, they have to stand out in other manners.

    Most guys go to a social to dance. It doesn't have to be great dancing, just good enough (for their abilities) to make it enjoyable. If the ladies that they're dancing with are dressed nicely, it makes for a nice evening.
     
  2. Loki

    Loki Well-Known Member

    Methinks the Gen is pulling some collective chains here. LOL!
     
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  3. TemptressToo

    TemptressToo Member

    I pretty much look for ballroom shoes anywhere I dance. Smelling good/clean is a bonus. :)
     
  4. Bailamosdance

    Bailamosdance Well-Known Member

    So... Ballroom shoes are catnip for femme social dancers?
     
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  5. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

  6. TemptressToo

    TemptressToo Member

    For me at least ;) ...says you are serious. I'll honesty dance with anyone that asks though. I don't like WCS, but endured an entire dance that consisted of ONLY the sugar push with an 80 year old man. :)
     
  7. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    IF I was on the prowl as well looking to dance, that would be another matter....IF I was on the prowl, I would respond favorably to the following (in no particular order);

    a good haircut
    nice hands and teeth
    a pleasant clean scent
    pressed dress casual clothing
    clean shoes
    manners
    comfortable in one's own skin. listening or talking
    ...there are other personal attributes that tend to ping my radar but I will abstain from sharing them :)
     
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  8. j_alexandra

    j_alexandra Well-Known Member

    What kind of look for a man appeals at a social? after I've sat out a few and watched, I want to dance with the man who looks like he can dance. I"ve danced with men in shorts, men with beards and ponytails and the Hawaiian shirts that go with them, men in polo shirts and khakis, men in jeans and a black tshirt, men in business suits. I'm looking for a dancer, not his wardrobe.

    I recently went to a social and my last dance of the night was with a man who had hygiene issues; his sweat-stained tshirt hadn't been washed recently, and there was perhaps a touch too much garlic in his diet on a regular basis, as his sweat stank of it. He was an amazing dancer and it was one of the finest dances I"ve ever had at a social. He looked slightly like Jabba the Hutt, he smelled like borscht, he led like a dream. Would I dance with him again? I pray that he'll show up again and ask me. Would I prefer that he was cleaner/better dressed? I don't give a rat's. It's sweat; it washes off. He moves like a god, and he moves me where I need to go, in time with the music, in a clear direction, with an indication of power that I can understand in time to follow it. Win.
     
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  9. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    i am with you on everything but smell...i am uber sensitive on the good and bad side...I get the heaves
     
  10. Generalist

    Generalist Active Member

    Why would a man not want that?
     
  11. Generalist

    Generalist Active Member

    It's not surprising that some women would knock me for stating the obvious. I don't know if it's feminism or puritanism, but there are lots of women in our society that think females should not be judged by their appearance. Like that's ever going to happen!

    What surprises me is that we haven't had any women post that they dress certain ways to attract the attention of men. Should we conclude that women put no thought into their dress before they dance -- so whether they attract the attention of men or not is just a matter of coincidence?
     
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  12. fascination

    fascination Site Moderator Staff Member

    I am removing myself from this conversation... it serves no useful purpose
     
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  13. nikkitta

    nikkitta Well-Known Member

    Dude: DRESSING ATTRACTIVELY IS NOT THE SAME AS FLASHING BOOBS AND BUTT!
     
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  14. JudeMorrigan

    JudeMorrigan Well-Known Member

    Feminism is not a bad thing. Sexually objectifying people who are not looking for it is. To be very, very clear, my issue is with the whole panty-flashing thing and getting one's jollies from ladies who aren't actually looking for that sort of attention. I don't think anyone here is saying that looks are a complete non-factor. Just that it sure would be nice if we respected our dance partners enough to not ogle them when it hasn't been made damned clear that they want it.
     
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  15. Sania

    Sania Well-Known Member

    Very well put.
     
  16. Joe

    Joe Well-Known Member

    FTFY.
     
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  17. nikkitta

    nikkitta Well-Known Member

    Yes, depends on the perv's definition of "attractive" o_O
     
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  18. j_alexandra

    j_alexandra Well-Known Member

    not that I'm eager to add fuel to the flare-skirt-panties-viewing fire, but truth is truth.

    Last night at a social I've attended many times, someone new to me showed up. She was very attractive, had a very fit body, and wore a dress that fit her beautifully, with a skirt that was very full and flared a lot when she spun. Which is when I discovered she was wearing a thong.

    She danced almost all night. I, in my much-more-covered dress and my not-so-fit body, watched.

    Just sayin'.
     
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  19. j_alexandra

    j_alexandra Well-Known Member

    Watched the dancers, not her thong. (I needed to make that clear).
     
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  20. Mr 4 styles

    Mr 4 styles Well-Known Member

    my female dance pro that I started with 13 years ago once said

    there are two kinds of girls that dance all night...

    the good ones and the hot ones

    seem still true
     

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