Jenny, You may be right. It seems like at the studio I go to there are a lot of single men and women in their 20's and 30's and low 40's there who take group classes. I gather that 90 percent are single, because I don't see them with wedding rings. I am a 69 year old married male. It appears to me that a lot of them are there to meet persons in the opposite sex. It looks like there is some subtle jocking by some of them if not many of them to dance with the most attractive ones-regardless of their dance skills. I think that I am a more skilled dancer than many if not most of them. I do wear a wedding ring, though my wife does not go, because she is probably one of the few women who does not like dancing. The few times that the instructor asks the women to choose the men to dance-they don't generally ask me-they ask the most attractive males. I assume (maybe incorrectly) that that is age related. I might also add that the instructors are also very young, and most times when they want to demonstrate a step for the students-they will choose the most attractive male or female to demonstrate the step with. Out of curiosity, I note that you say or imply that the men that you are looking for are not interested in you and vice versa. What qualities are you looking for?