Women re-directing dances I'm sure you've all encountered this phenomenon: you ask a woman to dance, and she says: - Why don't you dance with my friend over here? Is there a way to be tactfull about this? Because basically, I want to dance with the one I'm asking, but in almost every case I end up dancing with her (usually beginner) friend, because it would be really impolite not to do so. Well, I guess I understand the point of view of the woman, that they want their less skilled friends to have fun too. And I should add that this usually happens with women I know. But still, I think this is not the correct way to handle such a situation. If they want me to dance with their friend, they should ask me to ask their friend to dance.