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    How do you answer this question?

    One on a team of 9 organizers
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    How do you answer this question?

    The story is a bit more complicated. It is a very small suburban Tango community, of which I am one of the organizers. The lady in question is a beginner and a very slow learner. Her appearance is "non - inviting", not because her advanced age, but rather due to self neglect. Personally I prefer...
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    How do you answer this question?

    Last night at a Milonga a lady approached me, in presence of several other people with the following question" "I keep coming to this Milonga for a year and a half, how come you never dance with me?" Obviously I was not prepared for this, and felt kind of ambushed. Then I thought how should I...
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    What to do about gender imbalance

    If the men are dropping out as well - it's the teachers... the teachers are doing something wrong! Find a school where ALL people (men and women) are enthusiastic to attend.
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    How long to wait before asking follower again?

    There is a difference between bad dancer and an inexperienced dancer. A smart lady would know the difference - she will avoid the bad one and encourage the inexperienced one. If the comment was solicited by you, that may be a good sign, because she didn't point her finger at you, but rather...
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    What do you expect from the men you dance with?

    The question was "what do you expect from the men you DANCE WITH", not the man that didn't ask you to dance...
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    What do you expect from the men you dance with?

    I came across a blog post titled "What do you expect from the men you dance with?" It asks ladies about expectations and preferences. Interesting points... Any opinions? http://tango-lessons.com/what-do-you-expect-from-the-men-you-dance-with-a-short-summary.html or https://goo.gl/vU2YqC...
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    What to do about gender imbalance

    The forum saved your typed info as a draft...
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    What to do about gender imbalance

    This is the way the forum is set up. As long as you are logged in, the reply box will shaw. Just ignore it.
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    What to do about gender imbalance

    Just erase what you typed in and closed the window. Nothing will be posted.
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    What to do about gender imbalance

    Did it occur to you that perhaps the leaders who didn't take any following classes simply didn't take any or enough leading classes?? Conversely, the leaders who took following classes are so dedicated to Tango that they took even substantially more leading classes? The kind of generalizations...
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    What to do about gender imbalance

    Good for you if it helps you in pursuing Tango. It can not hurt to learn how the lead is perceived by a follower. From my point of view, if you do not intend to become a follower in Milongas, you are using your resources to learn a skill you will not use. As a leader I find being follower a...
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    What to do about gender imbalance

    This doesn't explain why more men come and stick with it - it's more difficult for everybody!
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    What to do about gender imbalance

    Where are you?
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    What to do about gender imbalance

    I am not surprised at all that the instructor is not trying to tech men how to follow. In our dancing society if a man is a leader, he has no interest or desire to learn how to follow. I am a man and I never learned how to follow and I also never heard complaints about my lead. And I am not...