A Newbie's Guide to Dance Forums

pygmalion

Well-Known Member
#22
Hi IsItModern. Welcome. :-D

There's unlikely to be a forum dedicated to modern dance (or ballet, etc.) because DF is primarily a partner dance forum. However, occasionally, ballet, modern, hip hop, etc, questions do come up. You're most likely to find those threads in the general dance forum. Also, there are tons of topics that are of interest to dancers in general (splits, stretches, recovering from injury, foot care, how to warm up, cross training, nutrition, etc.) Those threads could be in any forum, since people tend to start even general threads in the forum that corresponds to their favorite dance genre. *shrug* If you have something in particular you'd like to discuss, using the search function is probably the best place to start.

Again welcome. It's nice to have you here. :-D
 
#25
This and the next few posts in this thread are intended to help newbies to Dance Forums (DF) navigate the system and understand some of the unwritten rules and customs. As with all posts on DF, everything I write is my own observation and/or my opinion. Those who have things to add, see things differently or have different opinions are always welcome to add to the thread.
This is a great idea and very helpful thank you :D
 
#26
Thank Zhena for very useful information. May I add a little more: newbee, especially for one who use English as the second language (as me :) ) should read the Guidelines on the top and sticky threads first, then several threads to learn about what others said and felt.

Because members can come from many countries who has different customs and habits, an action might be allowed in your zone but not in here, so please read carefully the forum's rule before starting. It's good to use a dictionary to understand a terminology and ask Staff in the Private Message to Staff subforum for unclear things.
 

Zhena

Well-Known Member
#27
Dance Crush ... a romantic/sexual interest in a dance instructor (or fellow student) in which the physical attraction is at least partly a function of the dance experience. [Throwing in some pop psychology] dancing generates endorphins and makes one more susceptible to romantic influences.

The “normal” dance crush lasts only as long as a dance. In my experience, they add a little “zing” to the dance experience, and they’re one of the reasons I really enjoy dancing with many different partners.

Problems with a dance crush can arise when the crush moves off the dance floor (or out of the pure dance context). A person subject to a crush has to decide whether to take any action to pursue the crush beyond dance or whether it would be better to stifle it.

When you are under the influence of a crush, it’s hard to objectively evaluate your options and the possible outcomes of your actions. One useful piece of information is the range of possible feelings and motivations of the object of your crush. They might include:

1. A fellow-student who visibly enjoys dance, because sharing the joy makes it even better.

2. A teacher who is trying to help and encourage you to enjoy dance, because sharing the joy makes it even better.

3. A teacher who sees something special in you as a dancer and wants to help you develop that something.

4. A teacher who wants you to keep paying to come to class.

5. A teacher who wants you to buy private lessons (and therefore tries to meet your conscious and subconscious needs).

6. A teacher who wants you to perform well so other people will want to buy lessons.

7. A fellow-student who is attracted to you and wants to get to know you better.

8. A teacher who is attracted to you and wants to get to know you better.

9. A pick-up artist who sees you as the next victim.

Note that only the last three reasonably involve anything beyond dance, and two of those three can easily be friendly rather than romantic/sexual. Always remember it is highly likely that the object of your crush does not see you in a romantic way.

If you think you might be the exception, I encourage you to read the stories found in http://www.dance-forums.com/threads/crush-on-instructor.32597/. The most common advice given in that thread is to move yourself away from the crush situation and avoid complications.

If you want to minimize the chance you might fall victim to a crush, consider the circumstances under which it occurs most frequently, and mentally prepare yourself if you put yourself in those circumstances. Based on the stories I’ve read, the dangers can be ranked. Note that it’s perfectly possible to emerge unscathed from any and all of the danger levels because (as mentioned above) most motivations for dancing are purely dance related. It’s just important to realize that the opportunities for misinterpretation of motives increase in accordance with the following danger levels:

Danger Level 1: In a group class you learn to move your body in sync with your partners. The physical contact feels intimate. You see the joy of dance in some of your partners. One partner in particular seems to share a special understanding with you.

Danger Level 2: In a group class the teacher smiles at you, offers words of praise and encouragement, and chats with you after class. Level 2 is more dangerous than Level 1 because a teacher is not a peer.

Danger Level 3: You and you regular partner take private lessons. The instructor adjusts your body position, touching you in places that are usually off-limits, which feels … different. When the instructor adjusts your partner’s position, it can look a little silly or it can suddenly make your partner seem a shade more attractive. You learn to use your body in new ways, and some of the moves feel wonderful. Sometimes your instructor’s eyes meet yours over your partner’s shoulder, and you share a special moment. Level 3 is more dangerous than Level 2 because of the personal touch.

Danger level 4: You take private lessons without a partner. The instructor often adjusts your body position. You learn to use your body in new ways, and some of the moves feel wonderful. Sometimes you and your instructor share a special moment. Level 4 is more dangerous than Level 3 because it’s one-on-one.

Danger level 5: You take private lessons with a focus on a goal (e.g., a competition or performance). The instructor constantly adjusts your body position. You learn to use your body in new ways, and some of the moves feel wonderful. You and your instructor share your feelings about the goal and the methods you are using to reach it. You work long and hard; you get frustrated and elated and depressed and confident, sharing every emotion with your instructor. Level 5 is more dangerous than Level 4 because of the strong emotions associated with a common goal.
 

Loki

Well-Known Member
#29
A lot of office affairs begin during a long project - long hours together, working on a common goal, sharing the ups and downs, sharing marginal takeout food meals in a conference room...
 
#31
<<Sometimes your instructor’s eyes meet yours over your partner’s shoulder, and you share a special moment.>> Level 3

<<You learn to use your body in new ways, and some of the moves feel wonderful. Sometimes you and your instructor share a special moment.>> Level 4

<<You work long and hard;>> Level 5

Why is working "long and hard" all the way at Level 5? You can be working long and hard at Level 1. Or do you have to be dancing close and intimately before the "special moments" kick in? (Amusing post though).
 

Zhena

Well-Known Member
#33
<<You work long and hard;>> Level 5

Why is working "long and hard" all the way at Level 5? You can be working long and hard at Level 1. Or do you have to be dancing close and intimately before the "special moments" kick in? (Amusing post though).
Good catch! What I meant to say was "working long and hard on a common goal". As Loki said, a lot of office affairs begin during a long project. Working long and hard on your solo practice doesn't drive you further into the danger zone. And of course this means there's a lot of danger in long intense hours with a practice partner you aren't in a relationship with.
 
#38
How come when they're talking about dance types, they don't mention contemporary, jazz, lyrical or modern? Are they all styles of dance of catagories under the types?
 

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