Does Groping Really Happen A Lot While Out Dancing?

#21
Lucretia said:
I wonder what our Salsa Grand Father thought about me when I hugged him goodnight and said something at the same time. I got his eartip (is it called so ?) in my mouth. :oops: :shock: And I was to embarrased to explain 8)


/Luc
lol
 

Sagitta

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#23
borikensalsero said:
Well, I have "funny" and perhaps embarrassing story that happen 2 Mondays ago. I was dancing with this girl wearing JLo hip hugger jeans, as we know those pants are at times too low for girl that has what is called a "ghetto" back side. Well, I accidentally slipped my hand down the back side of her pants where the two liken round muscles meet. :shock: I went to CBL her and as I brought my hand to her back and went to place it on the back of her waist it went right down through the only place where the jeans weren't hip-hugging! Thank God I was able to cross body lead her right off my hand without much commotion! Thank God she knew it was an accident, for she would have beat me silly right then and there! We both reacted the same way! Big eyes, a smile and a not to worry...
I never realized how easy it was to make a mistake like that until it happened with someone. :oops: We were goofing around and she put her hands in my pant back pockets and I went to do the same and as we moved around...oops it slipped in!! :oops:
 
#24
Sagitta said:
borikensalsero said:
Well, I have "funny" and perhaps embarrassing story that happen 2 Mondays ago. I was dancing with this girl wearing JLo hip hugger jeans, as we know those pants are at times too low for girl that has what is called a "ghetto" back side. Well, I accidentally slipped my hand down the back side of her pants where the two liken round muscles meet. :shock: I went to CBL her and as I brought my hand to her back and went to place it on the back of her waist it went right down through the only place where the jeans weren't hip-hugging! Thank God I was able to cross body lead her right off my hand without much commotion! Thank God she knew it was an accident, for she would have beat me silly right then and there! We both reacted the same way! Big eyes, a smile and a not to worry...
I never realized how easy it was to make a mistake like that until it happened with someone. :oops: We were goofing around and she put her hands in my pant back pockets and I went to do the same and as we moved around...oops it slipped in!! :oops:

LOL!!! Isn't that the case, the things that you think would never happen, do happen!!!!
 

vey

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#25
motardmom said:
I think the "accidental" boob rubs happen a little more frequently
I agree :!: And since it is accidental, i do not pay much attention to it.

I haven't had a problem with real gropping (what to do... I am not nearly as hot as Boriken is :shock: :shock: :shock: ) but what really annoyes me is, as somebody already mentioned, a "half-way hand": too low to feel comfortable but too high to start slapping :wink: - I usually put my hand over and move it up without commenting...

Girls, what about when a guy turns you with your back to his front and is way too close? Hate that
 
#27
In most of my experiences, the groping has always been accidental. I guess I've been pretty lucky.

A part of the dance is sexually playing with your partner. Dancing close and familiar, but not really. It's almost touching, but not. Accidents happen in those cases.

I was dancing with a lead once where I was doing some shines with him standing still, legs spread. I did a shine that led me between his legs and accidently in full contact with him. Uh, oops. That was quite an accident. We laughed it off, and repeated the move with a little more control that time.
 
#29
pygmalion said:
Oh. That's the discrediting post. Another hilarious scenario, if you ask me. You come out of a duck blind. So how the heck were you supposed to know where her breasts would be? You're off the hook on that one. 8)
No, I can believe Hothouse on that one. I do duck-under turns very frequently, and every once in awhile the top of my head will brush against a woman's stomach or breast on my way up. Sometimes it's because the woman didn't step back as far as I expected, and sometimes it's because I got a little too lazy to ensure I ducked low enough to come up in the correct (no-contact) position. :oops: I haven't yet had the good fortune of such a "brush with greatness" for my nose during a dance, though. :lol:

HothouseSalsero said:
I remember kissing one of my aunts once and accidentally touching tongues just slightly. That was weird, to put it mildly.
Okay, now that was a little too much information for today. :shock:
 
#30
passion said:
I was dancing with a lead once where I was doing some shines with him standing still, legs spread. I did a shine that led me between his legs and accidently in full contact with him. Uh, oops. That was quite an accident. We laughed it off, and repeated the move with a little more control that time.
I remember something like that, too....actually, how could a lead forget! :lol: My partner was doing some fast kicks between my legs when all of a sudden her leg hit the end of my....


I think I briefly had one of these looks on my face -- :shock: -- and I surprised myself by remaining still and not jumping back out of habit (which would have been bad since we would have both lost our balance).

We just kept on dancing like nothing had happened.
 

Sagitta

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#31
I'm this little innocent naive person and really don't think about these things as you will see.

What happens when a tall lady and short lead dance? The hand keeps going on the butt. It requires effort to place the hand above the lady's buttocks and so I was doing this move called ponle sabor and this person looks at me funny. I'm keeping my hand low to make sure she turns into my hand and touching her bottocks every time and I'm not realizing it. :oops: Anyway now I play with her and sometimes deliberately do it to remind her of the incident and give this big grin on my face. As I am this innocent mischievious kid so she just plays along. :)

passion said:
In most of my experiences, the groping has always been accidental. I guess I've been pretty lucky.

A part of the dance is sexually playing with your partner. Dancing close and familiar, but not really. It's almost touching, but not. Accidents happen in those cases.
I like this. I will play with people and see how close we can get without touching. Then there is a break in the music and some of that pent up tension is released. Those are some breaks, I tell you!!
 
#32
cocodrilo said:
Gee, my first response to this thread was like "Have you ever been out dancing?!" YES, it happens, unfortunately...I go to clubs/parties where lots of young latinos with active glands gather, so I kind of anticipate that and I know how to deal with it. Once I say "Cut it out, dude!" they usually get the hint. It's usually kind of playful but still not invited. I have had a couple of real pervs(older guys) that I had to totally avoid as it was way more than a playful touch but a real disgusting grope. I am thinking of investing in an electric cattle prod! 8)

Cocodrilo,

I can understand your astonishment with this post. However, I was just stunned by the responses from the other post "Are Salsas Dancers Out in the Wild Bored."

I must admit when I was 15 or 16 and when I would go dancing I would playfully squeeze a girl's butt and pretend I didn't do anything. But, I was a teenager..hormones overload. I'm 33 and that's definitely not a reason to go dancing for.

I'm a man and I didn't realize how prevalent it is..to this day. Thank all the DFers(especially the women) for sharing their stories.

:eek: :eek:
 
#33
I think it's quite intersting how different the perception of certain things are in the US from the way they are here. In the clubs that I go to people only come to dance and everybody knows about that. So it is not so important when there are hands on butts or something like that, because the guys know that they can't expect more after the dance.

The only thing that I really have a problem with is when the face of the guy I'm dancing with at the moment ends up between my breast.

There is this very small latino in my scene and he always asks the tallest woman he can find to dance with him (at least a head taller than he is). Somehow he figured out how to dance with them without breaking their arms while doing turns. Unfortunatly whenever there is slow song he is pulling the woman very close to him so that he ends up with his face between their breast.

Especially when I where something with a low neckline I'm trying to avoid this guy
 

Cist

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#34
I knew about these problems, since I have very close friendships to some of the girls, who told me about these situations. Sometimes, maybe twice a month, I also have the same problem as boriken. Not only men seem to be ... well ok :roll:

I just can't understand why so many dancers here had the experience of touching the girls "below hip thing" by accident? How do you lead? :lol: .

But what already happened to me - and this was always an accident - touching the follower somewhere on the front, either below or above hip level. Although I tought in some classes: "always watch your hands where they are going", you have to be quite fast to manage this and also then it will happen, especially when the girl does sthg you didn't expect her to do.

At last: girls I look up to you for your patience and politeness with such men :applause:
 
#35
amrimi said:
There is this very small latino in my scene and he always asks the tallest woman he can find to dance with him (at least a head taller than he is). Somehow he figured out how to dance with them without breaking their arms while doing turns. Unfortunatly whenever there is slow song he is pulling the woman very close to him so that he ends up with his face between their breast.

Especially when I where something with a low neckline I'm trying to avoid this guy
HAHAHAAA.. hey, the dude knows how to lead for his benefit :lol:
 
#36
amrimi said:
There is this very small latino in my scene and he always asks the tallest woman he can find to dance with him [...] he is pulling the woman very close to him so that he ends up with his face between their breast.
:) I wonder how people would dance if evolution had created short males and tall females in humans.
 

pygmalion

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#37
:lol: :lol: Probably quite a few ... That reminds me aof a shortish young ballroom dancer I know who is right at the beginning stages of puberty. And guess where his face lands in closed dance position? You got it. :wink: He's having the time of his life. :lol: :lol:
 

DWise1

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#39
Pity I didn't save the "Balboa Rocks!!" t-shirt graphic. The one with the short lead and tall follow.

Did I mention that Balboa is danced very, very close? Chest-to-chest.
 

Vin

New Member
#40
Now that you mention it there are certain moves in the swing family that can be as overt as any salsa moves. Doing an underarm turn out of swivels for example. This moves requires the follow to turn completely while leaning on the lead's arm for support, the whole way around.
I wonder why follows in particular always really enjot this move hmm...
It always made my arm feel kind of violated.
 

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