I think I may sign up for a certain amount of gossip. My character is a little more exuberant and permissive than most would expect from a "mother and wife". It frustrates me that mother and wife hover over me like a big moral metre stick, and it's not the guys who approach me that get judged, it's me.
So. I have to basically "tone it down" in all areas. I also have to react more demonstratively to those who cross lines, instead of dealing with it quietly the way I have been.
I cried a long time ago at the thought of changing myself so I'd "fit" my lifestyle better, according to the masses.
This reminds me of my last boss at work, a short, round, bearded, rather smelly geek, into real ale, whiskey and motor racing, who perpetually mocked me about my 'effeminate', 'dissolute' and 'debauched' lifestyle. BOY did that get tedious, especially as he sat directly across the desk from me. In the end the interpretation was clear: He couldn't do that stuff, so he needed to do it vicariously through me. He couldn't walk up to a random woman in a salsa club and dance with her whereas I could. Likewise, he never got invited to wild parties where he got to have sex with multiple nubile partners, so OBviously, in his fantasy world, it follows that I did.