Hitting your partner

I've mashed, poked, bumped, whacked, groped (accidentally), but I've never bitten a partner. :shock:
I agree completely! I find the best partnerships are the ones I can just say "that felt like poop" about a step, and they'll just laugh and agree. In most partnerships, this just means talking it through, figuring out what went wrong, and trying different ways to fix it. Heck, if you were to see me and my Smooth/Standard partner practicing, you would think I'm a horrible nag: I'll stop a step and yell "yuck!", I'll remind him about his shoulders being wrong -- heck, I bit him once! But it's all in good fun; he'll stop steps too, his shoulder is a running joke (and in my defense, a coach told me to bite him :D). It's just how we practice, and neither of us gets offended, because it's all about fixing our dancing. We also like to identify recurring problems and give them (often obscene) nicknames.
I've accidentally hit my instructor in the crotch. I was supposed to do a double turn and land in a crouching position (sort of) with my hands on his abdomen while I look up at him (I don't think I'm describing it well). Anyway, I I kept doing the turn and landing with my hands gently touching his abdomen, and he kept making me do it over again telling me to really go for it, so I did, and hit him in the crotch - he wasn't hurt too bad (I don't think) but our practice was interrupted for a few minutes while we laughed. I told him that I did it on purpose as payback for the time he stepped on my hair while doing a death drop ;)


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I've been hit in the face with elbows during turns, whipped with hair, kneed in various places, stepped on, tripped and accidentally kicked. I have accidentally hit my partner a few times during some tricky moves, I know that. I can't recall which ones to save my life, but it's safe to say that she's hit me significantly more than I hit her. I think it comes with the territory. Sometimes limbs fly and there's nothing you can do. I definitely advocate the approach of being in total control and exercising caution, but sometimes it's just not possible... as we all know.
I'm glad this is on the discussion board. These things happen. Most of us can tell when a grope or bang is accidental or not. I care about all my partners. In fact, when we care about one another these little accidents make our dancing better faster because we are determined not to let that happen again. I have had my lip split, my toe broken and more. The same partner never hurt me or anyone else that way again. It's part of the process. I been hurt much more badly in other sports. Think funniest home videos. Ballroom doesn't show up much does it?


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I hit my pro once during a scholarship. I didn't even feel it. He asked me if his lip was bleeding... As the round went on his lip got bigger and bigger.
Girls are so much worse at accidental hitting, my my experience :) I elbowed at least 5-6 guys really hard, always while spinning, and once a guy lost his glasses on the dance floor, poor thing. I got hit hard once on a lip (no blood), also by a girl who did some fancy smooth arm styling in my face. I do feel bad every time I hit someone, but all my victims took it as real gentlemen :)
Once upon a time, when I had really long hair and put it in a braid, I whacked my poor partner in the face with it. And I have a fair amount of hair, so it left a considerable mark.

That same evening, a different partner dipped me, got run into from behind, and dropped me by accident. Serious pain, but no injuries.

I've heeled and been heeled, had my feetsies stepped on, run into people, etc.

Once I almost took out the entire sound system in my dance studio doing a Viennese waltz.


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The only damage I've caused to my partners is a hit to the top of the head from misjudged turning actions or hitting them in the knee. I've taken plenty of elbows to the face and body and the only one that actually hurt was when a male pro was playing the follower's role and demonstrating to my partner on how to turn and curtsey. His elbow to my head left me seeing stars.
This happened to me at my Intermediate Salsa class last Wednesday. I was turning a girl and her head bumped into my arm. Thankfully it was the soft part of my arm and not my elbow. Yikes! But, it was only a minor hit, but it was actually my fault because I messed up the routine. The girl was so nice and understanding about it. I sincerely apologized to her and she laughed and said it's ok. And she made a joke about it by saying that Salsa dancing is more dangerous than she thought. She was so cool about it and I really admire that in her. But yes, she still gladly danced with me when she got to me again during the next rotation. And believe me, I tried not to make that mistake again. Thankfully, I didn't.
Oh my, if my dance partner stopped dancing with me because I hit him, I'd have no dance partner!

One time I hit him in the face, I felt so bad, but he claimed it was his fault because he brought my hand there and didn't move his face back. I let him take the blame for it.

But one time, I kicked him, and I'm pretty sure that was my fault. I was trying to get my leg wrapped around him, but I sorta missed the around part and went right into his stomach. Oops!

But then again, he has shouldered me in the nose/eyes - which I think was probably my fault. And I've slapped him across the cheek with the inside of my upper arm... one of the most odd ways to accidentally slap someone.
If you hit a girl you should say you are sorry in a funny way.. like umm you can say "Oh im so sorry" and after a minute "So that was my Karate.. let's go back to dancing?" laugh and wink.

If a girl hits me.. I will just make fun of it say I forgive her and hug her after.. "But next time you hit me I will fight back".

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