How to know whether a guy can really dance...

#4
If he's a newbie in the scene (not necessarily a newbie to dance though) then I'd say yes!

This is how I danced with one very good dancer from Toronto! He's Romanian (and we were supposed to meet in Bucharest during his trip to visit his parents) but he misplaced my phone no. So he went to the local club hoping to get a dance... and maybe meet me (he knew me by my photos on my site). He saw me and invited me to dance on a merengue! I politely said no, as I was on my way to the rest rooms... next time he came on another merengue... and I said yes! :) This is how I actually met him!
 
#6
Gentemer said:
So, what is the one question a girl can use to test (before the dance itself!) whether a guy is not simply pretending that he can dance.
I don't know if there is a question you could ask to find that out. (Besides, most people either under or over exaggerate when asked about their own dancing.)

One dance with him though should be pretty revealing. Then you can politely refuse him in the future.

Or ask other women if they have enjoyed dancing with him or not. We women can stand together against the gropers!! :D
 
#7
I don't really care what he wants! If he is into "groping" I punch him! If he's more discreet but still into groping I have my ways of keeping him at a distance. If he is looking for a dance... then I am ready!
 
#8
besides...the risk is only fair...guy doesnt know whether the gal can dance either does he? although i admit that the 'roaming hands' syndrome is more of a male thing...although i've seen some girls go wild for some of the latin males in my clubs, making me wonder about their motivation too....
 

tj

New Member
#10
squirrel said:
I don't really care what he wants! If he is into "groping" I punch him! If he's more discreet but still into groping I have my ways of keeping him at a distance. If he is looking for a dance... then I am ready!
Lol! You go girl! :applause:


I do feel for you ladies... having to put up with crap like this.

Do understand that for us guys... when you're in a big scene, and don't know anyone, it's tough for us at first, too.
 

MacMoto

Active Member
#11
Gentemer said:
So, what is the one question a girl can use to test (before the dance itself!) whether a guy is not simply pretending that he can dance.
No question. Asking rarely helps. Observation is the answer. Watch the floor when you are not dancing. Also, watch whose company these guys are in on and off the floor. I can usually tell who can dance, who can't dance but is interested in learning, and who can't dance and NOT interested in learning. The third group I avoid.

Of course, I have come across guys who can dance but are also into groping... :evil:
 
#12
Look at his shoes.

Rubber soles = bad.
Leather soles / dance sneakers / jazz shoes = good

Most 'advanced' dancers in our neck of the woods wear jazz shoes. It's not a 100% accurate, scientific measure. But chances are that if he has invested in a good pair of shoes, he is there to dance.
 
#14
for me, this question is not something i worry about when asked by a guy i don't know or haven't seen dance. one thing too; i know many really great dancers who *don't* wear dance shoes to the clubs. as far as i'm concerned, i will say yes at least once to anyone who asks as long as they are not wasted drunk, or if i'm way too tired in which case i'll ask them to catch me on the next one, or find them later. just don't worry about someone's abilities, and if the concern is, do they want to just "grope", then walk off the floor if that happens, no biggie :)
 
#15
brujo said:
Look at his shoes.

Rubber soles = bad.
Leather soles / dance sneakers / jazz shoes = good

Most 'advanced' dancers in our neck of the woods wear jazz shoes. It's not a 100% accurate, scientific measure. But chances are that if he has invested in a good pair of shoes, he is there to dance.
I had thought about that before. The problem is in my scene mostly only the women wear dance shoes.
 
#16
amrimi said:
I had thought about that before. The problem is in my scene mostly only the women wear dance shoes.
Shoes is just an example, but there are others. For example, I don't wear watches, bracelets, rings or necklaces because they might get caught in hair or dropped. Amount of hairgel - hard to do combovers, cuban style ducks.

Look at clothing, some advanced dancers dress really sloppy / for comfort since they go out every night. Amount of cologne. Earrings. Posture. Perspiration. Beer bellies. Groupies. Slapmarks on the cheeks.
 

luh

Active Member
#20
lol @slap marks!
well if you just wanna dance with good ones, - sounds snobbish to me. I think it's pretty weird if you ask someoneif he can dance too. I would feel pretty bad, and probably refuse the dance, just because it doesn't look to me if the one is going for a good dance. i also feel pressured, and i hate that too. if you can wait a song, look what he does, but _never_ ask if can dance, worst you can do. having fun is important, having fun on a high dance level is better, but just because your partner is on a high level doesn't mean it's gonna be fun.
I'm always on the dancefloor to have fun, to try new things out, and maybe get ppl to know (*think* - all my friends are more less from the dance club), but not proffesionality or something like that..
luh
 

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