I have no idea how to dance :(

Thank You!

NONETHELESS......


firstly...about the homosexual thing... i was just noting to the fact that usually guys dont overdo it with dancing.... however homosexuals are more commonly a lot better at dancing... like the girls when they grind (i am talking about bumpand grind dancing)

furthermore.... about your site not being able to help with grinding...


I AM A SUCESS story..... i am talking to u still in my homecoming (high school dance) clothes.... I am in 12th grade. and i read this WHOLE thread... and it TAUGHT ME HOW TO MOVE in the dance floor.... most importantlyi learned the fact that a beginner needs to know how to use his legs to move his hips.... because they get nervous and just move their hips...while their shoulder and arms and legs are frozen and they look really stupid....



after ralizing that, I started goint throught he steps of the several "tutorials" on this thread... turned on some music and learned the basic way to move my body... like a foundation... and i went to the dance.... my date started dancing with me and i did exactly what this thread showed me.... but as soon as she got comfortable she moved closer ...i did three types of positions thorughout the whole dance 1) her back facing me and both her legs inbetween mine 2)her back facing me with my right or left leg in between both her legs. 3)me facing her with one of my legs deep inbetween hers.

i used the basics to move my hips and when she started bumping into me i realized it was ok to GO and i dont have to dance at a distance anymore... my hips.... and important: i tried to put my shouldeers and my hands into movement along with the blasts of the song and her hip movement....

when there was contact.. ... or when her back was facing me i placed my arms inbetween her armpints and over the top of the front of her shoulders.... or i rubbed her shoulders... but I DID NOT DO this all the time... only when my hands got lonely... most of the time i had both hands on her hips... or one hand on her hip one behind my back...or both hands hanging behind my back... or them kinda off to the side diagonally downwards

anyways... things i need to work on: moving my shoulders and hands in sync.. with my hips and the music 2)finding better combinations of moving my hips to bump or rub up agains ther but.. or even to make myself look cooled when we are first dancing at a distance

WARNINGGGGGG>>>:::::: when i did these things ... sometimes she moved up away from me... at first i followed her because i though she lost balance or i leant foreward... however... it means "I want room" so after it hit me i sayed where i was when she did that.... then later i moved back up to her really cose in one of the prevously described positions.. anyways THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP! you have no idea how helpful this was.
i turnedon some rap... and got infront of my mirror and began shifting my weight with my legs as previously described in this thread


anfter that i just had to go dance witht he girl copy her and copy what the guys around me did.

ohh and!!!! it is very important that you are not worried about screwing up... and READ THE WHOLEEEE ENTIRE THREAD before comenting or asking ppl... please i did this and i just got back from homecoming... and i did exactly what everyone said IT WORKS

THANK YOU. withough the basic things i learnt from this thread i would have NEVER gotten it.
 

fascination

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glad we were helpful...that is why the thread is there for people to go to and take the time to read...particularly because ther aren't a bunch of people around here who are into that sort of thing and b/c the inquirer is usually in some big rush, and b/c these threads often move in an untoiward direction...glad we were of help...and yes, respectfully, we take great care not to disparage a quality by attaching a non-disparaging identity such as homosexuality to it... thanks for your clarifications
 
my education in 'grinding'

So a friend of mine showed up late to the salsa party last night, didn't get his fix, and suggested we move to a club after the lights came up on the social. I was still pretty hyped up so said fine, we trolled down a few blocks and dropped into an innocuous-looking club.

Music wasn't so great, mediocre mid-90s hip-hop; but we were having fun, clowning around, throwing in random inappropriate salsa moves from time to time. We were the only two people really dancing; there were a few others on the other side of the floor sort of nodding their heads while clutching beer bottles.

So then this girl comes dancing up next to me and compliments me on my dancing (well, what she actually said was "Come on mami, you know you got it, woooo" or something to that effect). I smiled and opened up our dance to her. Then she turns to my friend and says, "You gotta do it like this. Come on, we'll show you."

So she grabs her male companion and the two of them start 'dancing,' to show us how it's done I guess.

Now I don't consider myself a prude, and it's not like I've never heard of this grinding thing; there is even a salsa hold where the man is behind the woman and their bodies are in pretty close contact. It's a little risque and not my favorite thing, but whatever. I have also heard people describing dancing to reggaeton as "perreo" but I've never seen it in action.

But this couple. OMG. She stood in front of him, spread her legs, leaned waaaay forward, and polished his groin with her rear while he held her hips and did pelvic thrusts. I was like :shock: :shock: :shock: They both had these nonchalant little smiles on their faces, and she was sipping on a drink as well. I was so embarrassed I didn't know where to look. It was seriously like watching them have intercourse, the clothes were kind of a formality. Geez.

So is this what these kids are coming here for looking for advice on? I did not think I was that old, but if this is standard young-adult dancing these days I guess I should start looking into a walker and an AARP membership. Zoicks.
 
hahah actualyy that is ALLL that dancing is today at high schools in america....
looks like sex whilst standing up with clothes on

that and then slowdancing.

but i couldnt even make myslef do that because they really get into it and move their soulders, hands and such to the music.

i tried being pretty conserved when i was dancing with my date... but then her friend began dancing with her when i was taking a break...and he was using a LOT more contact..and was wandering with his hands....and she seemed to enjoy it...... lol i kinda got mad but she smiled at me so i came up and began dancing in front of her when he was in back.... and i did the same thing... but i placed one of my legs in between hers and placed my hands on her hips and id get down really low and my hands followed down her legs..and then up again....
soon enough she moved away and was just dancing with me. :)
 

fascination

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So a friend of mine showed up late to the salsa party last night, didn't get his fix, and suggested we move to a club after the lights came up on the social. I was still pretty hyped up so said fine, we trolled down a few blocks and dropped into an innocuous-looking club.


But this couple. OMG. She stood in front of him, spread her legs, leaned waaaay forward, and polished his groin with her rear while he held her hips and did pelvic thrusts. I was like :shock: :shock: :shock: They both had these nonchalant little smiles on their faces, and she was sipping on a drink as well. I was so embarrassed I didn't know where to look. It was seriously like watching them have intercourse, the clothes were kind of a formality. Geez.

So is this what these kids are coming here for looking for advice on? I did not think I was that old, but if this is standard young-adult dancing these days I guess I should start looking into a walker and an AARP membership. Zoicks.
er, yea and I've got to say that for that very reason, there isn't going to be allot of stuff like your aforementioned descriptions that are going to be left posted on this site b/c there are minors whose parents wouldn't appreciate it and b/c it offends plenty of grown-ups to even read it, b/c it is near to pornographic in content...hence, there isn't going to be a thorough "how-to" thread on this site...going back to my rocker now
 
Interesting...by the way you can dance cha cha to some reggaeton/grinding songs. ;-) I get desperate sometimes . :)
Hee, I've been guilty of this a lot. Most stuff is 4/4 anyway, and you can pretty much make anything with even beats into 4/4 if you want to (only stuff like 3/4 is impossible to convert, and how much 3/4 is there in the club scene anyway).

I actually like reggaeton (I know this is blasphemy around here) and I enjoy freestyling to it - I don't have to turn it into a salsa or cha-cha to have fun - but I do not do this 'perreo' thing and none of my friends do either!

Fascination: Yipes, I apologize. Didn't consider the implications. Feel free to delete/edit as you think fit.
 
Hi people at DF. I just want to say that this site is amazing. I'm pretty ****ed that i couldnt find this site BEFORE Autumn Ball because this really would've helped with my clumsiness on the dance floor. This was the first time I had a date with me to a dance. Apparently my dancing was a bit tad weird and I had this unsettling feeling that I didnt belong in the middle of ginormous groups of teenagers grinding ----. My friends tried to get me in and i DID but after a few tries i just gave up. After reading this site however i think i feel more confident.

I have one question though. lets say "give it up to me(by sean paul) was playing, how would dance to accomodate the beat in the music? I'm pretty new to this and this probably sounds like a retarded question with an obvious answer. Thnx in advance =)
 
Hi. So, I basically have the same problem. I won't say my age, but I'm only in high school and, as much as I love going to dances, I always feel so out of place. I love the excitement and the loud music and the whole basic feel of a dance, but I always feel like people are watching me and judging me and I'm not confident enough in my dancing abilities to just shake it off and have a good time. Basically, I'm saying that I can't dance and I would really appreciate some help. As much as I'd like to be a really good dancer, a crash course will have to do for now because, as of today, I have 4 days until the next dance. Please, give me any advice you have because I'm willing to try anything at least once, more times then that if it's fun. Thanks! =D
 
Grinding

Hey I have read threw all 47 of these pages and I think that provide a great amount of information.

I think that the key to grinding though, at a high school dance, is to ease into. Don't go right on the dance floor and start to grind, sit back and observe what other guys are doing. Then go out on the dance floor and maybe start to just dance with some friends and get used to the music. After that you could go ahead and start to grind, if its your first time(and you don't have a date/girlfriend) maybe grind with someone your lessinterested in first to warm up.
 
Ok well what happens if your a girl and doesnt really know how to grind??

I grinded like once and I have to say I think I was terrible at it.

Also where can I find the confidence in Grinding with another person?

I have read what people have posted but I'm still confused.. Can people try to explain to me a bit more??
 
How does a guy approach a girl? ive been told that u just go up and grind w/ them, but that feels like im intruding on they're space...so please teach me!
 

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