I read this and it sounded so familiar, i simply could not respond at the time. For many years, I simply stayed away if I felt that a situation would lead to misunderstandings/screaming matches, and slowly built strength to be who I needed to be. I have learned that I need a LOT of time alone, and that dance and being an artist are amazing tools to positively resolve negative energy. I have learned, when I am around a volatile situation, that I am able to help the small people in my family when they come up against the same issues, by holding out my hand, taking them aside, and simply holding them close, so they know they are loved, and give them a moment to understand that I am acknowledging them as they are, in the moment, right now. And once they have regained their equilibrium, I might spend some time sharing something that they value, like reading them a story, or drawing with them, or watching the animals. It is difficult (in my case) seeing my own mother in tears, because her OWN mother was in a destructive mood........ instead of being hardened, I have become more sensitive, but learned how to help a bit because of that sensitivity. I find I use the same sensitivity in work situations, and I managed to help a co-worker who was on the verge of walking off the job. So as Fasc said, here is a hug, as well as sympathy and understanding should you need some more to get you through.