More Support for Men Learning How to Dance

#41
TJ - I didn't mean that switching partners was soul-less...it was the energy that the particular folks gave off. It could be dancing with one partner or 10 partners...I've seen partner switching that was very very beautiful. :)

Keep in mind this is only my opinion...and perhaps I tried to get my point across a bit too much. I didn't mean to offend you if that's the case.

SG
 

tj

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#43
scorpionguy said:
TJ - I didn't mean that switching partners was soul-less...it was the energy that the particular folks gave off. It could be dancing with one partner or 10 partners...I've seen partner switching that was very very beautiful. :)

Keep in mind this is only my opinion...and perhaps I tried to get my point across a bit too much. I didn't mean to offend you if that's the case.

SG
No problem, SG. It's why I wanted you to clarify your statement.
 

DWise1

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#44
Laura said:
Once again I'm jumping in late, so I'll just speak to the original topic.

I was just talking to a friend of mine who is currently in China. My friend tells me that at the dancesport training schools there, girls pay twice as much as boys to attend. It used to be the the girls would pay and the boys would get in free, but this has changed. Still, I wonder what effect doing a sort of "ladies' night in reverse" would have in the US? Bars and clubs have drink and admission discounts to attract women, why not have partner dance clubs and studios try the reverse? I guess it would only work if cost rather than personal and clutural inhibitions were a major barrier to men starting partner dancing.
Interestingly, a local ballroom that teaches Salsa offers discounts for new female students and for couples (so as to not upset the lead/follow balance), while we stags (unaccompanied males) must pay full price even from the start. This speaks to me of there having been way more guys than girls when the policy was put into place.

Most of the students there are Latino (I'm one of the few hueros (ie, fair-complexion type) there) -- he even teaches the classes bilingually -- , so maybe it's a still a cultural thing in that social dancing is much more a part of Latino culture and there's much less of a stigma on guys dancing. It almost seems ironic, considering how important machismo is in Latino culture.

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It's harder for my wife; she's Irish by marriage.
 

twnkltoz

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#45
I don't know why, but for the last few months, most of my classes have been almost all men with only one or two women! This is more a case with intermediate and up classes...the intro and beginning classes tend to be a little more balanced as couples tend to come together.
 

DancePoet

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#46
Wow! Just noticed at the time of this post that the number of views to posts views on this topic is approx 36 to 1! I suppose do to the nature of this topic this shouldn't be surprising.
 

DWise1

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#48
twnkltoz said:
I don't know why, but for the last few months, most of my classes have been almost all men with only one or two women! This is more a case with intermediate and up classes...the intro and beginning classes tend to be a little more balanced as couples tend to come together.
I have seen it suggested in discussion that while women progress much faster than men do in the beginning, the men then surpass the women and many women start to drop out when they find that they actually have to work hard to progress. Whether that's a factor in what you observe, I couldn't say.

Or would it be because the men need to continue in class to learn the new moves while the women are out in the venues just following those new moves?
 

MacMoto

Active Member
#49
tj said:
scorpionguy said:
A few weeks ago I was at a huge Salsa club and there were 3 guys dancing with this one girl who was a spinning tornado machine. One guy would dance with her, spin her 20 times (plus a few other tricks) and then pass her off to one of his friends. It was one of the biggest displays of ego and soul-less dancing I have ever seen.
I don't think that the act of 3 leads sharing a follow is an ego/soul-less dancing thing at all. Maybe to someone watching, but I could give a hoot about what that person is thinking.
It's more a matter or what the follow thinks than people watching, isn't it? Getting spinned 20 times and then passed off to someone else for more spinning is certainly not my idea of fun, but as long as the girl enjoys that sort of thing and the guys are doing it because they know she likes it, not just because they think it's fun, that's fine. Again, the love-making analogy fits here I suppose.
 

tj

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#50
MacMoto said:
I don't think that the act of 3 leads sharing a follow is an ego/soul-less dancing thing at all. Maybe to someone watching, but I could give a hoot about what that person is thinking.
It's more a matter or what the follow thinks than people watching, isn't it? Getting spinned 20 times and then passed off to someone else for more spinning is certainly not my idea of fun, but as long as the girl enjoys that sort of thing and the guys are doing it because they know she likes it, not just because they think it's fun, that's fine. Again, the love-making analogy fits here I suppose.
Yup - believe me when I tell you that we're not only paying attention to the other two guys, but the follow, too. In fact, the primary focus is on her, not the two guys. We won't do this with just anyone either.

There are some follows out there that absolutely kick knat - they'll handle anything you can think of, and while you're panting, trying to catch your breath because the song is so darn fast and long... meanwhile, she's like "Ho hum, is that all you've got? (in a playful manner of course)", so you need to pass her off to your buddy while you take a breather.
 
#51
tj said:
she's like "Ho hum, is that all you've got? (in a playful manner of course)", so you need to pass her off to your buddy while you take a breather.
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: .......been there, done that (perhaps minus the multi-spinning :oops: )!

I love being passed around amongst friends......
 

tj

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#52
salsachinita said:
tj said:
she's like "Ho hum, is that all you've got? (in a playful manner of course)", so you need to pass her off to your buddy while you take a breather.
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: .......been there, done that (perhaps minus the multi-spinning :oops: )!

I love being passed around amongst friends......
It's also something that gets done for both "Birthday Dances" and "Farewell Dances".

Hey SC, on a related note: When I had my "Farewell Dance" in Seattle a few weeks ago, Gustavo put on a killer song - it was great except it was soooo long! He even joined me and we were dancing shines together. You would've enjoyed it.
 
#53
tj said:
Hey SC, on a related note: When I had my "Farewell Dance" in Seattle a few weeks ago, Gustavo put on a killer song - it was great except it was soooo long! He even joined me and we were dancing shines together. You would've enjoyed it.
:D I wish I was there! He's the man 8) !
 
#54
Quote:
MEN who know how to move on the dance floor know all the right moves in the bedroom, claimed a report yesterday.

A survey of 2,000 women revealed that the way a man dances is a dead giveaway to his performance between the sheets.

More than 80% of the women questioned said there was a definite link, and that magic movers were certain to be able to perform more than a few tricks in the bedroom.




Read the full story here.

So which guys here in the forum are good dancers?
What an article, wow,.! One sided that it is.

What about the converse side? Women who can dance

relaxed and rhythmic(ally)
are also better in bed.

Everything in the article seemed to be the same when describing women as well. Except of course the beer and football.
 
#57
:doh:

Honestly, I think there needs to be more support for women dancing...at least in my area. There are enough leads to sink a battleship! :headwall:
 
#59
scorpionguy said:
:doh:

Honestly, I think there needs to be more support for women dancing...at least in my area. There are enough leads to sink a battleship! :headwall:
Where do you live? Sounds like a fun place to move to.
 

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