Overly aggressive dancers

luh

Active Member
#61
danceguy said:
I had an interesting experience last time I went out dancing that I wanted to share. I got to watch a guy dance who had some of the most incredible dance skills I've seen to date, but there was something about his particular style that didn't appeal to me.

The way he danced was so aggresive...he would spin himself and his partner and blinding speed and he was also a huge guy (250+ pounds), so anyone near him had to watch close to avoid getting bulldozed out of the way.

I heard one his partners say "hey you're leading me too fast through something I don't know" but he didn't slow down in the least. Instead of two people moving as one, it was like watching a guy lead a lady like she was a marionette. The lady was getting whirled, spun and even dipped (to the point that she was horizontal with the floor and mostly laying on it!) at such speed that I was glad to see she was still in one piece after the dance!

I'm curious to ask the other Salsa folks if this type of dancing is a common occurance in the clubs you frequent, as I've never seen anyone dance like that before. If Salsa is truly part of the ritual of love and in essence a form of forplay, it made me wonder by watching this guy dance how tended to treat women. To put it mildly, in my eyes it looked like he saw them only as a piece of flesh to satisfy his tremendous ego, nothing more.

Maybe I'm being too critical as this just not my thing, but I love to watch very smooth and sensual dancers. The crazy stuff just doesn't do much for me, save to remind me I never want to dance like that. :wink:

Best,

SG
well, wouldn't be good if this is normal.
dancing is about having a relationship on the dancefloor, this guy obviously did not understand that.
luh
 
#62
I danced with a guy a while ago, who obviously wanted me to be a tornado. I was a newbie follow (still am :d) And he wasnt dancing any dance id ever heard of before. I dont have a problem with that if the guy has any patience, and this was a simple rythem so I was doing fine. At first. Once the guy realized Id gotten his style of dance down, He fully grabbed my hand by the wrist (not that nice genlte way some leads do) and proceeded to plant himself and spin me in a circle around him for the rest of the dance. When he was done, he said "you spin fast, that was awesome". I said thanks and collapsed out of breath on the floor near my friends. They gave me water and sympathizing looks. I vote him to be in the contest too!
 

luh

Active Member
#63
chandra said:
I danced with a guy a while ago, who obviously wanted me to be a tornado. I was a newbie follow (still am :d) And he wasnt dancing any dance id ever heard of before. I dont have a problem with that if the guy has any patience, and this was a simple rythem so I was doing fine. At first. Once the guy realized Id gotten his style of dance down, He fully grabbed my hand by the wrist (not that nice genlte way some leads do) and proceeded to plant himself and spin me in a circle around him for the rest of the dance. When he was done, he said "you spin fast, that was awesome". I said thanks and collapsed out of breath on the floor near my friends. They gave me water and sympathizing looks. I vote him to be in the contest too!
sometimes i'm glad I'm a leader not a follower.
luh
 
#66
Last night i was dancing LH with a guy who was throwing me around, and After a couple of swingouts, I said "I cant do that Im sorry, Im going to fall down" He shrugged, and grabbed another ther partner.
I have completely crashed before whilst dancing, and Im not going to risk it again.
 
#68
ROTF LMAO!!! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Sabor, who's establishing the lead role in your signature? :wink: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Oh my gosh! That has to be the funniest wedding cake topper that I've ever seen! :lol: :lol: :lol:
 

Sagitta

Well-Known Member
#71
Sabor said:
LOL!.. yeah just a quick reminder for the guys who are interested/like to 'follow'.. u see what happens when women lead?! :shock:
Not turned me away yet. You got to try harder sabor. :wink: :lol:
 
#72
I danced with a salsera the other day. She has been dancing for a while but for some reason has never taken classes. Anyway, the other day she grasped my hands during the dance as if she was falling from a 10 story building. :roll: This really bothered me. I have told her time and again not to do that but she never learns... I never ask her to dance anymore, unfortunately she is always asking me. :shock:
 

cornutt

Well-Known Member
#73
TemptressToo said:
I danced with a supposive 'trained dance instructor' the other night at swing that was so rough...
Funny you should mention it... a follower that I see every now and then, and she is a trained instructor, is an incredibly physical follower. She will "take off" unless physically restrained by the leader. The first time I did an East Coast Swing with her, she rocked back so hard into my right arm that she spun me around the opposite way! I'm pretty strong, so now that the initial shock has worn off, I can dance with her and I do actually enjoy her dancing. However, it causes me to pick up bad habits. After a dance with her, I have to be careful not to "muscle up" on other partners.
 

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