Since I tend to overthink everything, I'm sure I am overthinking the two-step, but I have a question. I make mistakes when I dance and that is not likely to change--I assume most people do. With most dances, I know how to correct to get back in sync and on time with the leader. In 2-step, once I make a mistake--usually getting nervous during some longish turning sequence/maneuver and losing track of the QQSS--I can't get it back. I have no way of telling whether my next step should be a Q or a S, particularly if we are in sweetheart position. Hmmm, it might be a problem with my connection in sweetheart position, but if anybody has any suggestions, I would appreciate it!
If you feel the leader doing a confusing (double) pause on you, then you're probably dancing with a less-than-advanced leader. The wind-up action is a little confusing at first as well. With a little experience/practice, it becomes very intuitive as the (light) wind-up actually puts one on the proper foot with the proper (counter) orientation for the ensuing maneuver.