Picking a Pro for pro/am

fascination

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#41
If you have already started with the other standard guy and are happy with him, that should be a sufficient answer even if you are wrong...but I assume you did your research on the other guy....if you haven't already started with the other guy and you value your original pro's input, I think there would be wisdom in taking a lesson or two with his suggestion, if for no other reason than to have shown that level of respect for his perspective on it...perhaps you could also get the opinion of an educated third party who knows all pros concerned
 

Bailamosdance

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#42
Geez... complicated..

So I have this conversation with pro and he understands why I wanted to work with a different pro for standard.
But then this... He asks me if he may ask who I will dance standard with.. He disagrees with my choice. He also disagrees on standard pro moving me into gold. To be clear, I knew he was uncertain on my choice by his hesitation and I did push him a bit on giving me his opinion as to why he was hesitating with my choice.....

So he says that he felt I did not make the best decision on picking the standard pro and if this is what I would like to do he supports me but suggests a different pro that he feels would be a better fit for me and a better pro... He asks that before I make any final decisions I book a lesson with suggested pro.

Further he says if I come back to our lessons with conflicting information from the pro I picked he would question my instruction, while with the pro he suggests he would not question his point of view...

Now this is a twist I had not expected... What do you all think of this?

Weigh his opinion with the fact that you may very well be making the wrong choice. Take 4 or 5 lessons with his choice (you didn't decide about the other teacher after only one lesson, did you?) and see if it all works
 

jjs914

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#43
...perhaps you could also get the opinion of an educated third party who knows all pros concerned
This could be interesting if it's possible.

J, I think from some of your past posts that we may be in the same general area, although I'm not certain. While I don't consider myself an "educated third party," I'd be happy to chat or PM, if it would be helpful to you to talk things out.

Good luck!
 

JANATHOME

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#44
Actually it was possible... A third party pro who did know both pros reached out to me and was able to give me an unbiased opinion, and I am good now... But thank you JJ for the offer.

LOL, still going to be interesting and I hope it will all work out.
 

cornutt

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#46
So I'm re-reading this thread as I'm now considering what to do... as some of you know, my instructor and pro-am partner of 13 years has moved away. I'm currently dancing with another instructor at the studio, but she's moving away (not as far) shortly; I'm already committed to do Nashville Starz with her. I'm considering another pro from Nashville and I will be setting up some "tryout" lessons with her shortly. She's a fine dancer and has a very good look on the dance floor. My only slight concern so far is that, in heels, she's a bit taller than I am. Might be a good thing -- make me keep my eyes up and my head back. :D Seriously, I want to see if we're a fit as instructor and student, and there's also scheduling issues to talk about.
 

dbk

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#47
My only slight concern so far is that, in heels, she's a bit taller than I am. Might be a good thing -- make me keep my eyes up and my head back. :D
If it's only the heels that make her taller, it shouldn't be a problem for Standard. If it's Smooth, no problem at all IMO :D
 

FancyFeet

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#49
I'm a little taller than my pro in my shoes, and after a brief adjustment period, it's not an issue. He does have to "think tall", and I have to make sure to shape like I'm supposed to... but with a pro follow, I don't see it being a problem.
 

3wishes

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#52
So I'm re-reading this thread as I'm now considering what to do... as some of you know, my instructor and pro-am partner of 13 years has moved away. I'm currently dancing with another instructor at the studio, but she's moving away (not as far) shortly; I'm already committed to do Nashville Starz with her. I'm considering another pro from Nashville and I will be setting up some "tryout" lessons with her shortly. She's a fine dancer and has a very good look on the dance floor. My only slight concern so far is that, in heels, she's a bit taller than I am. Might be a good thing -- make me keep my eyes up and my head back. :D Seriously, I want to see if we're a fit as instructor and student, and there's also scheduling issues to talk about.
I've competed on the floor with pro/am couples in your situation of height. From my observation, in this situation, it was not a problem at all in terms of height. And there were some obvious height differences.
 
#53
Mayo Alanen is the best male smooth dancer and pro/am coach. Not only is he an amazing dancer, but his choreography is the most dynamic and just the most sweet and kind person.
 

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