Real Salsa Dancers, Players, and Sexy Moves

#41
The basic etiquette on the dance floor is to make each other feel comfortable; however, not too comfortable to the point that other dancers and spectators feel they're in the wrong room. If either the leader or follower feels uncomfortable, he/she should feel free to stop dancing with him/her. The followers have ways to maintain the distance. For leaders, the best policy is to reserve sexy moves until you've gotten to know her and she feels okay with it.
 

Sagitta

Well-Known Member
#43
africana said:
Sagitta said:
africana said:
Sagitta said:
Read the title of the thread, take a deep breath...
huh? meant for me?
The point of the thread is whether or not certain moves are typical and/or acceptable to the majority of salsa dancers

are you saying we should all agree the same? interesting...

now I have been partially joking in these last posts, but I should think we can all have differing opinions without being termed "mental cases"
How much can we play without knowing that we have overplayed? How's that?

:wink:


:)
too evasive, come out and say what you intend to say, I might find useful ;)
Same is boring. Me likes variety. How about u?

What is typical/acceptable? To me what matters is the context.... With the things that I have done on the dancefloor with one or two I would have been chased off the dancefloor by at least half of df, yet I guarantee that most of the ladies I dance with don't consider me a sleazeball. I'm as innocent and pure as the first fall of winter snow. :wink: :) I'll give you an example. S., a 17 year old in Syracuse,NY. (When I first saw her I thought Amish/country girl as she had this long country style skirt etc.. Just to show that the unusual dress was what caught my eye, and not nakedness. Then the connection we enjoyed made me keep on coming back for more.) I enjoy dancing with her the first Friday of every month and it is one of the reasons that I go to that Latin dance. She asked me to do besito. Requested it. She requested it as she was so young so I wouldn't normally do it with her. Anyway, no-one else will do the sexy moves that I do with her.

I can make a move sexy and fun and dirty/disgusting/slimey/repungnant. Are we asking the right question by talking moves? A beginner can butcher leading an inside term to a fast song. That makes it an unacceptable move to repeatedly lead IMO, until you can do it better, while a skilled leader will allow a lady to flow seamless through one as a channel from one move to the next.

Another example. Go to Cuba and see a 60+ grandmother dancing with her 16 year old grandson. You can almost imagine the grandson trying to vaccinate the grandmother. The dance has some of its origins in the courtship ritual. The two are dancing and responding to that call and the roots and respecting them. Clean dancing in public.
 
#45
aha so this was personal

and of course to each his/her own (if not we can spend all day calling each other "mental cases" and "perverts" ;) )

By the way, I'm not sure what a besito is...it sounds like a "cutesy" move to me

also sometimes it's not the actual sexiness of the move that some might object, sometimes it's simply the cheesiness of it, the fact that the guy uses it methodically, or as his guaranteed way of touching sumthin ;)
and sometimes the moves are just plain boring :?
the worst is pretty much when it just doesn't match the musical mood

ok enough of this, carry on playa :p
 

Sagitta

Well-Known Member
#46
africana said:
aha so this was personal

and of course to each his/her own (if not we can spend all day calling each other "mental cases" and "perverts" ;) )

By the way, I'm not sure what a besito is...it sounds like a "cutesy" move to me

also sometimes it's not the actual sexiness of the move that some might object, sometimes it's simply the cheesiness of it, the fact that the guy uses it methodically, or as his guaranteed way of touching sumthin ;)
and sometimes the moves are just plain boring :?
the worst is pretty much when it just doesn't match the musical mood

ok enough of this, carry on playa :p
Not really...I don't take df/life too seriously! :wink: :) Besito means little kiss in Spanish, I wouldn't do beso (kiss in Spanish) as that would be a full-frontal attack. :lol:

TRue about using a certain guaranted move to touch sumthin. I'll have to think sumthing special next time --- modified sambuca...hmmm...
 
#48
africana said:
well as a confirmed mental case might I say you need a good slappin right about now - moderators is that allowed?? :twisted:

(I swear there's a heat wave goin aroundthis here forum)
'touch me and i'll sue' :lol: :lol:

but .. if manage it.. could i have that 'good slappin' avec chocochocola pls! :bouncy:
 

HF

New Member
#51
africana said:
Just came across this article by Edie the Salsa Freak

http://www.dancefreak.com/stories/relationships.htm

boy that's some messed up *** about male and female players, I'm appalled but not extremely shocked

But I really like the last page (page 9)
Extremely useful article and I am happy that I read it very early in my salsa life. Maybe I will write a "thank you" letter to Edie one day because it sort of preserved me the ability to live in a long-time-relationship.
 
#52
africana said:
also had 2 or 3 dances with this other guy that totally "unlocked" that sexy component, in a way that I don't typically respond to every other partner

the important thing is that it was not choreographed or planned, we just had that chemistry
This is where the sexy moves come in when you feel or know there is that chemistry between the two of you. It is not thought out nor is it planned in your head what your next move is. While dancing, you're in the moment and you do what feels right at that particular moment. That's the mark of a good dancer - beginner or advanced. You are not intimidated nor or you wondering, can I make that move on her. You're not thinking, you are just dancing and going with the motion and the flow of the dance. You are both in sync and it feels right.
 
#53
SalsaAmore said:
This is where the sexy moves come in when you feel or know there is that chemistry between the two of you. It is not thought out nor is it planned in your head what your next move is. While dancing, you're in the moment and you do what feels right at that particular moment. That's the mark of a good dancer - beginner or advanced. You are not intimidated nor or you wondering, can I make that move on her. You're not thinking, you are just dancing and going with the motion and the flow of the dance. You are both in sync and it feels right.
exactly.. well put!
 

Sagitta

Well-Known Member
#54
Sabor said:
SalsaAmore said:
This is where the sexy moves come in when you feel or know there is that chemistry between the two of you. It is not thought out nor is it planned in your head what your next move is. While dancing, you're in the moment and you do what feels right at that particular moment. That's the mark of a good dancer - beginner or advanced. You are not intimidated nor or you wondering, can I make that move on her. You're not thinking, you are just dancing and going with the motion and the flow of the dance. You are both in sync and it feels right.
exactly.. well put!
Ditto. 8)
 
#55
yess! chemistry has to be there first!! otherwise: yikes!

this weekend a guy (i didn't know him) asked me to dance with him and he started right away: stroking my hair, going down holding my hips etc! ugh! he hadn't even looked into my eyes! :shock: :evil: i was like: get your sweaty fingers out of my hair!! eeuw!.

i like flirting while dancing, but not with any partner! and you have to build it up! this guy clearly had no clue!
 
#57
guys guys, always rushing, straight to your 'goal'. when will you learn? a girl has to be warmed up a little...
the fun of traveling is not so much in reaching your destination, but enjoying the road you take, including sidetracks etc...

btw sabor: how would you do that while i'm on the floor constantly? trying to attract my attention while i'm dancing with another guy? steal me away for a moment?
 
#58
btw sabor: how would you do that while i'm on the floor constantly? trying to attract my attention while i'm dancing with another guy? steal me away for a moment?
well, in reality actually, i wouldn't be doing that.. :lol: ..
 
#59
hmm? what would you do?
i generally keep my flirting to the dancefloor, but hey, whatever is in the interest of making the dance more fun... i'm open to suggestions :lol: :lol:
 

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