social etiquette question


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I'm curious. What were the rules in the 30's and 40's when people went social dancing?
don't know, wasn't around then.

I thought that's how lots of people met up and dated and eventually married?
well, that happens now, too. it's just a matter of what your *intent* is when you go out. if you're out there "looking", then the dancing is going to be secondary, and ladies are going to feel it...and it can be a turn-off. and also, you're predisposing yourself to compexity and drama.

doesn't mean you can't or won't find someone that way. am sure there are people out there who use social dancing as a dating vehicle...have met some of them, that's for sure. but am just saying that you may enjoy the experience more fully if you have the intention of keeping trolling for chicas off the social dance floor.

If I follow your advice, I am going to limit my social dancing. I don't fancy going out every night without making a connection. So I'll continue full bore ahead with my classes but limit social dancing to one or two a week.
well, do what works. but btw, this is a challenge many dancers face. they wanna be dancing, the dance community is a small one, their time is limited for non-dancing pursuits so...many face the same quandary. i know it well.

I'll make my connections elsewhere, then, and will return as a couple to dance lessons and social dance parties...
maybe it will work out this way, maybe not. you'll find your way, tho. again...this is common terrain for many dancers. personally, i choose the dancing & don't seek out connections outside of it anymore. honestly, life has a way of bringing the right people to you at the right time. just choose to do what makes you happy and things will take care. :)

The sad fact may be that all the romance, sensuality and raw sexuality of dance may all but disappear if you become serious about the dance. Talk about irony! :eyebrow:'s all there. because you can have sizzling connections with total strangers that you will never see really does help to get on the dance floor and make it all about dance, so that you don't get confused by the "chemistry" you may experience for the length of a dance...or an evening.


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I'm curious. What were the rules in the 30's and 40's when people went social dancing?

I thought that's how lots of people met up and dated and eventually married?


Of course , there was no Salsa in those times , so the following analogy is based on that period...

" Rules", for the want of a better word ( manners ? ) were not a lot different from today . Dances started much earlier ( 7.30 many times ) and finished no later than 11 .

Depending on where one lived, many people relied on public transport, which meant that you would get to know people on the same route as you ( this is in the UK )as cars were not as abundant then .

Another major difference was the number of couples who danced on a weekly basis, and most public dance halls were pretty crowded with a good mix of both singles and couples.

Many of the larger facilities ran dancers nites , which catered to B/room dancers specifically ( name bands like Sylvester and Joe Loss ) this virtually guaranteed that one would possibly meet "new" partner possibilties . In fact, a very famous couple met for the first time in a Northern dance hall ( they were both Amats without partners at that time ) and went on to the " top " . I happened to be there at that moment in time.

The ballroom schools ran " practice " nites.. some split them into Latin and Standard, not enough room for both in some cases . Singles met in the same way then as they do now.. however.. many B/room schools did not take " singles ", as many here today still do not .But a " Paul Jones ", a mixer, often lead to new partnerships .Hammersmith Palais had those on their weekly afternoon sessions, which were attended by all the leading Pros and Amat, many who would get involved .

Did all of this lead to romance ?, occasionally, of course it did .

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