Taking Ballroom to the Bedroom

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wonderwoman

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It's not an urban myth....girls do love guys who can dance. But not if the dancing is literally the only thing the guy has going for him. Put it this way, a guy being a good dancer could help seal the deal, and be icing on the cake, but it's not the cake itself. :tongue:
Its more of the cherry on the cupcake.. dancing in the cherry on top, charm and personality and confidence, all those superficial perks are the icing, and the cupcake is the real substance of the person.. The cupcakes with the yummy frosting AND a cherry on top are going to be the most enticing.. but sometimes you eat the cherry and lick off the frosting and taste the cake part and its not so good, so you throw it away.. the frosting was the best part.


Related but on my own tangent.. what do you say to a woman you can see is being lured in by the charm of a man you know is toxic? He is a nice but mediocre dancer and a flirt.. he's always dating multiple women.. he's going after a really nice girl whose birthday is today.. I thought she knew he was bad news.. sigh I guess you can't say anything!
 

danceronice

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At least she said "some". (I double-checked. :) )
You can spot them because they're the ones who start complaining women aren't lining up at their door because they took a six-week salsa class. The ones who might have more depth to them usually forget that's the reason they came in the door.
 
LOL, TD, I've been reading this with amazement myself.

Although, I have also wondered why prowess on the dance floor does not seem to lead to any dating prospects (not necessarily talking about bedding them) since there is this urban myth about how "girls LOVE guys who can dance." I've seen only a few couples that ever formed at dance venues...(especially in ballroom--the percentage is higher in Lindy Hop and Salsa circles, at least in my observations)
Girls do love guys that can dance but for some mysterious reason it doesn't seem to increase their desire for sex enough to make them more aggressive when seeking it.

It seems that with all of the closeness and intimacy that is necessary for dancing there would be a lot more happening -- especially considering that women constantly complain that guys are not intimate enough.

Perhaps women feel that dancing will enhance their appearance enough that they can rely on traditional dating roles to get as much action as they need. Without question females that are dancing are far sexier to men than females that aren't dancing.
 
Its more of the cherry on the cupcake.. dancing in the cherry on top, charm and personality and confidence, all those superficial perks are the icing, and the cupcake is the real substance of the person.. The cupcakes with the yummy frosting AND a cherry on top are going to be the most enticing.. but sometimes you eat the cherry and lick off the frosting and taste the cake part and its not so good, so you throw it away.. the frosting was the best part.
What a sexilicious way of explaining it! :uplaugh:
 

toothlesstiger

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It seems that with all of the closeness and intimacy that is necessary for dancing there would be a lot more happening -- especially considering that women constantly complain that guys are not intimate enough.
Do you really think they are complaining about a lack of physical intimacy? That would explain a lot.
 

samina

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oh, for pete's sake.:rolleyes:

it's more than just physical proximity and a few dances that inspires most women to hanker for more of a man. even bearing lack of physical intimacy in mind. psh.
 
Do you really think they are complaining about a lack of physical intimacy? That would explain a lot.
After contemplating this question for awhile I think I have the answer:

Women want more physical intimacy with men but they don't want it to be overtly sexual in nature. When men make contact with women it's usually sexual in intent and that's not what women are looking for. Therefore women don't get the physical connection with men that they crave.

Perhaps the reason women like dance so much is that it gives them the physical connection with men but with rules of engagement that limit the obvious path to sexual intercourse.
 

DL

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It seems that with all of the closeness and intimacy that is necessary for dancing there would be a lot more happening -- especially considering that women constantly complain that guys are not intimate enough.
You mean, 'it seems TO YOU that...'. In my own mind, the closeness and intimacy associated with dancing are *different* than other varieties of closeness and intimacy.

Perhaps women feel that dancing will enhance their appearance enough that they can rely on traditional dating roles to get as much action as they need. Without question females that are dancing are far sexier to men than females that aren't dancing.
So you're saying that appearance is the reason women can or can't get action? I disagree with that. I disagree with the following sentence too.

Why do you keep making such sweeping generalizations? They're unsupportable. They're also often (so it seems to me) easily construed as insulting, by many people.
 

DL

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After contemplating this question for awhile I think I have the answer:
Doubtful.

Women want [...]
I'm hard pressed to think of a sentence that starts like this that's also likely to be correct. Yours isn't one.


When men make contact with women it's usually sexual in intent [...]
Wrong.

Perhaps the reason women like dance so much is that it gives them the physical connection with men but with rules of engagement that limit the obvious path to sexual intercourse.
Perhaps the reason that people who like to dance enjoy so doing, is that it gives them physical connection with other people within a set of social rules with which they feel comfortable.

See how I didn't need to use gender-specific or sex-related arguments to suggest a reason why people might enjoy dancing?
 
Girls do love guys that can dance but for some mysterious reason it doesn't seem to increase their desire for sex enough to make them more aggressive when seeking it.
We need the other side of this story. Invite the women of your studio to read and post in this thread. I am certain the aggression will increase . . .
 

pygmalion

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rbazsz: I see what you're doing. You're making controversial statements as if they're self-evident. Really? You look to me like someone who either wants attention or who is trying to disrupt the natural flow of conversation in an otherwise mostly-cordial community.

Cut it out rbazsz. Your brand of "honesty" comes across more like self serving self aggrandizement or wannabe DF sabotage. Eh. Whatever. Stop it. If you want to participate in conversation here, do that. If you want to disrupt things here, acknowledge that the DFers who care will not let you.
 

Peaches

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We need the other side of this story. Invite the women of your studio to read and post in this thread. I am certain the aggression will increase . . .
Bwahahahaha!!! LOL. Best.answer.ever.

On a different note: lets not feed the troll. Cuz I refuse to believe this is anything other than trolling...although even if it isn't, it's perfectly evident that absolutely nothing anyone says here is going to get through.
 
LOL, TD, I've been reading this with amazement myself.

Although, I have also wondered why prowess on the dance floor does not seem to lead to any dating prospects (not necessarily talking about bedding them) since there is this urban myth about how "girls LOVE guys who can dance." I've seen only a few couples that ever formed at dance venues...(especially in ballroom--the percentage is higher in Lindy Hop and Salsa circles, at least in my observations)
Hmm, well as I said before, there's been 5 marriages in the last year within the studio I go to...however, I'm also aware of an alarming number of women who love to dance yet have boyfriends who absolutely refuse! They should dump their lame asses and get with someone like me instead :p
 
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