I have to disagree with you. I think that for me, I make sure to tell everyone that I am new to dancing, and they have fun teaching me new moves. So, it's not that I can't dance, but I haven't learned how to yet. I mean I have to an extent, but I haven't even performed my first show. So, you could look at that different ways. It could be that the girl, while being pretty, just needs to be taught instead of criticized about her dancing.
Oh, I'm not putting her down. I used to be that girl (well, pretty enough to get a few dances, anyway). I actually like it that my dance scene is pretty much of meritocracy. Does my heart good to see the guys walk past the pretty young things to ask my 75-year old friend to dance. She's a terrific dancer. And since I'm not getting any younger . . . or prettier . . .
Body language goes a long way to make people desirable in a visual way.
Eye contact is always useful. There's a personal confidence in eye contact, and years of dance lessons can't make one confident even s/he is a great dancer. Show the confidence first.
Straight back, head up (but not too far), shoulders back--don't close yourself off. If you're sitting down at a table, turn your chair slightly out, not facing the table squarely. Hands apart slightly, again so you don't close yourself off.
There is lots written about this stuff, but these were the basic things we told students who wanted to be asked to dance and never were.
Being able to dance???? Lol! Didn't even think of that, Sagitta-good response.
I just think aside from being able to dance, there are things about a person that tell others he or she is open to being approached. I couldn't imagine being a good dancer and having many people ask me to dance if I'm sitting with my arms crossed and my back turned to everyone. I guess it could happen if I were really really really good. So I'd better go practice, yeah?
Oh man, I can't believe I forgot about it! I'm such a slacker!
ok, so I'll make up for it....I'll try it randomly on multiple people for the next month or so and compile and tabulate the results and report back (of course, for entertainment sake, I can always report back w/ the initial findings from the first attempt )
hmm..... I could have way too much fun w/ this..... doing research through flirting. sounds like this is right up my alley