Whining Thread #2

Purr

Well-Known Member
Small whine...feeling heartbroken and miserable, again...not a out and out rejection...but the nebulous uncertain place that is the friend zone...think the former might have been preferable...don't know what's wrong with me...
 

IndyLady

Well-Known Member
Yes, make a continued or what is perceived as a badgering request, go to the back of the line. Hope it works out.
I think we finally found someone who can expedite this. Turns out one of my colleagues was having the same problem/request. Frankly, if you don't speak up, you will often find yourself even further back in the line. Or more accurately, in a black hole. The system here is very, very broken.
 

DerekWeb

Well-Known Member
Quite often, in a large corporation, the work is outsourced to a company off shore, most likely in India. In the race to save money, the contract probably gives them a week or two to respond. The race to the bottom is still alive and well!
 

fascination

Site Moderator
Staff member
Small whine...feeling heartbroken and miserable, again...not a out and out rejection...but the nebulous uncertain place that is the friend zone...think the former might have been preferable...don't know what's wrong with me...
you know...sometimes, people just hit a place where they discover that their needs/views/personalities aren't meshing at the moment ....so contact drops off more out of a place of affection and gratitude...that the distancing person accepts and doesn't expect the other person to change and doesn't want to end the relationship, but needs their space nonetheless...but if it is causing you real pain, you could just approach them with a question about whether or not something has happened...or it could just be that they are wildly busy or going through something that they aren't sharing with anyone...
 

IndyLady

Well-Known Member
Quite often, in a large corporation, the work is outsourced to a company off shore, most likely in India. In the race to save money, the contract probably gives them a week or two to respond. The race to the bottom is still alive and well!
Yes, that's the case here (first sentence). Thankfully this issue has been resolved and we can now move forward. I just find it very frustrating how much mental energy and effort has to be expended to get simple things done/accessed so that we can do our jobs, compared to what I expend doing the actual technical work of my job.
 

Purr

Well-Known Member
you know...sometimes, people just hit a place where they discover that their needs/views/personalities aren't meshing at the moment ....so contact drops off more out of a place of affection and gratitude...that the distancing person accepts and doesn't expect the other person to change and doesn't want to end the relationship, but needs their space nonetheless...but if it is causing you real pain, you could just approach them with a question about whether or not something hashappened ...or it could just be that they are wildly busy or going through something that they aren't sharing with anyone...
It makes sense. From the other person's point of view, having a friend is probably more important than anything else.
 

cornutt

Well-Known Member
It makes sense. From the other person's point of view, having a friend is probably more important than anything else.
That's true. But you also have to decide if that's the type of relationship that works for you. Sometimes it just doesn't. If that happens, you need to do the "it's not you, it's me" speech. It will be painful to do, but you'll be relieved afterwards.
 

cornutt

Well-Known Member
Have been trying for two months to get a plumbing place to give me an estimate on some work we need done. It's going to be a complex job (have to excavate part of the foundation, re-route a soil line, and move an air conditioner), and there is no one else in town I trust to do it. Talked to a manager yesterday and he swore that they would have me an estimate by COB Friday.
 

Purr

Well-Known Member
That's true. But you also have to decide if that's the type of relationship that works for you. Sometimes it just doesn't. If that happens, you need to do the "it's not you, it's me" speech. It will be painful to do, but you'll be relieved afterwards.
I get it. After some thought, I think it's more important for this person to have a friend, no matter how much angst it might cause me. I'm quite sure this person has been badly hurt, and I also have the feeling this person is a little lonely and sad. So I'm just going to go with what this person is comfortable with, at least for the time being.
 

IndyLady

Well-Known Member
1. I guess I am back to appearing to being just engaged, as my wedding ring (the band, not the ring with the diamond) has gone AWOL somewhere in my bathroom. No time to search extensively for it this morning, but so far have not spotted it on the counter or floor. Grrrr.

2. Seriously, why is there an anti-theft tag on a $16 sports bra? Didn't discover it until I got home last night and emptied the shopping bags. FWIW, the alarm did go off as I exited the store (big box store), but this is the third time this has happened recently (usually it's costume jewelry that has something embedded in the packaging), the greeter was nowhere in sight and I was already on a tight timeframe so I wasn't about to go back in and track someone down to prove I didn't steal anything. Back to customer service tomorrow I guess.
 

IndyLady

Well-Known Member
Rotate engagement ring so band is on top of finger—BAM, you're married again! :D
LOL, literally.

FWIW, I've noticed I get treated more respectfully when I'm out and about if I have my rings on.

I still haven't found the ring. I'm really hoping it didn't somehow fall down the sink (I doubt it, since I took them off together and put them closer to the wall, not near the sink). If I don't find it and decide to replace it, this will be my third wedding band - the first one is at the bottom of a lake after a tubing incident.
 

IndyLady

Well-Known Member
WTH? You get a finger torn off by a tow line?
Ha ha, thankfully no. The first time I ever went tubing I did not understand that capsizing was kind of the end goal, not just an accident of people who don't know what they are doing. I foolishly had my wedding band (but not my engagement ring) on. Ring slipped off while I was under water after being ejected from the tube.
 

FancyFeet

Well-Known Member
Ugh, comp schedule likely means warming up 3 times... set of 5, 2 and a bit hours off; set of 5, 4 hours off; another set of 5.

This may be an energy management challenge... plus, I really don't want to bring 3 dresses, so have to figure out if I want to wear the same one changing in-and-out 3 times, or if I want to alternate between 2 ('cause I always have a back-up one there, just in case).
 

Dance Ads