Genesius Redux said:
So I completely agree with what he has to say--if you want to be part of a group, make yourself part of the group. Don't stand outside feeling hard-done-by and call the group a clique. Friendships are formed from common experiences--often people in these groups don't even get to hang out unless they're at the salsa club, so of course they gather and talk.
He completely overlooks what everyone in the salsa world speaks of. ATTITUDE! We aren't talking about a bunch of friends who are together and the aura of the group says, anyone can come up to us, join us or ask us to dance. We are talking about a group of people who say “We are unapproachable!”
We are talking about groups that sadly in salsa, is formed by top dawgs, not the people that can't dance, but those that can. Those very same people that say no to everyone else except those that belong to the group itself. It is an aura that is completely negative. His point would be very well presented, and I would completely agree, if he was just talking about the natural tendency humans have to grouping with like individuals and how, someone, can become part of such group. But that isn't the case with cliques in salsa, so to that I don’t agree, to his human behavior observation, I agree. However, I can't look at human interactions in salsa without seeing the cause and effect of a displayed attitude.
Last week, in my fav spot, a group of cliquish people walked in for the first time. People started talking about how the Alpha Dawgs were giving everyone that came around bad looks, and how everyone else felt left out. Well, I saw that some of them were wearing sneakers so I thought they were just there to hang out, and weren’t really there to dance but to chill with friends. I said, fine they don’t want to be bothered they just want to be with friends, I’m cool with that. But then they changed to dance shoes, and, guess what, they said no to everyone, girl or guy, who approached the group, except one of the best dancers in NY City...
I thought people were making a big deal, so I went over and asked the Alpha Male if I could have a dance with the lady he was with. He was shocked and looked at me like I had 3 ears. Aside from his repertoire being bigger than my, I am a way better dancer than he is. Well, she said No, I am resting, as soon as the song started; she got up and danced with another of the guys in the group. Next song I did the same to another girl, No, I'm leaving now. The song goes on, she dances for the next 30 minutes with one of the guys, then sits back for a rest and on to dance again. I ask again, one last time to another girl in the group, NO, I am tired, I am resting, next song come get me, when I go to her, she say no again, yet grabs another guy and dances with him a few songs.
Mr. Doc is confusing the natural grouping together of people with the attitude of what we refer to in the salsa world as CLIQUES. Not one and the same. Cliques in salsa are held together by the best dancers in NY City, and the arrogant attitude some of these guys have trickle downs to those in the group that look up to them. Eventually making them look like Cliques of a$$e$ instead of a group of people enjoying the music and dancing, without consciously or unconsciously making their group seem like Gods gift to dancing.
It isn't about how they treat those they know, but those they don't know, and to those they are plainly mean to say the least.
Remember, that we aren’t talking about people who naturally group together, but the attitude that defines the group. That is the Salsa Clique that everyone comes to dislike.