Whats the meanest thing someone's ever said to you mid dance?

I dont know if this was meant to be "mean" or something, but someone said to me in mid dance "This song is so long." I didnt really think about what she said, but I just said, "Yea it is, my quads are killing me (it was a grind for like 4 minutes non-stop and they were real sore) then laughed it off. So any of you had some awkward/mean comments your partners gave you while you were dancing?

Yeah, I've had the "this song is so long" comment too. Ouch. Usually I just smile and look directly in their eyes and say "yeah, I know what you mean."

How about "what's the matter with you?" or... "why do you keep doing that?" This was during my very very beginner phase when I was just learning. And he was a "teacher". Needless to say, I don't dance with that guy anymore.

Hehe, sometimes I'm having a wonderful dance and still say, 'This is a long song". I hope they don't take it as an insult!

This isn't mid-dance, but after a couple dances in tango: was that three? Ouch.... Just stop dancing with me if you're not having fun. Geez.

I'm with you. I've both said it and have had it said to me and never meant it or took it as an insult. It usually happens with a salsa or merengue, which sometimes can go on f_o_r_e_v_e_r!

lol i've said that too when i'm really bored or tired, usually it's cos the song itself is boring

I'll add another vote...I've commented about the length of songs before, totally not meaning it as an insult.

For me, it's usually a salsa or merengue, and it just keeps going...and going...and going... I'm a smoker, and after a while, I feel it. Which is all I've ever meant.


I don't think I've ever had anything mean said, but the rudest thing every done while dancing was the last dance of the night one time. It was supposedly AT (but I'm not buying it), probably AmTango or something, and the guy absolutely COULD. NOT. LEAD. He never said anything to me, at all--not before during or after the dance--but he did resort to actually kicking my foot to try and make me step where he wanted me to. Repeatedly. I mean, I'm a beginner and I miss leads plenty, but I can follow decently at least. Or so I've been told. But to actually KICK me?!?!

I was so shocked I had no idea of what to even say at that point. Hmmm...I guess a comment about the length of the song would have been VERY appropriate!

I used to go to a place where they had a live band. The songs went on from 10 to 15 mins. You heard that comment a lot.

I've said that before, and add me to the list of it's nothing personal. I'm tired of the song, not of who I'm dancing with!

Well, the thing that upset me most was a about a year ago, maybe less than that when I had been doing salsa for about 3-4 months or so. I can generally hear the beat of the music and I could manage the basic pretty well in time. Anyway, I asked this guy to dance and he accepted. We went onto the dancefloor and I started doing the basic waiting for him to join me. But then he just said, "oh, you're no good, you can't do it" and walked off!! To be fair, I think he was drunk but it still quite upset me. Sometimes I think I am WAY too thin-skinned for social dancing.

I've been told that it was a long song too, but usually this is when it is a song that no one can really dance to. Then I'm usually like, yeah this song is a really bad song to dance to, we'll have to dance later to a better song.

But yeah, last night I was dancing with a guy that was trying to pretend he was a teacher. I asked him if he taught, and he said no, that he just taught his partner. I told him that he was good, but I got tired of hearing his comments towards me. So, I decided to really suck at the dances that we danced to, and then that way he wouldn't want to dance with me any more lol. The funny thing is that he knows I can dance, because he saw me dancing perfectly with the teachers etc. lol! I'm hoping that he'll get it into his head that he's just a bad leader that needs to work on his social skills.

There was this beginner lady who came into our studio once on Friday night... I usually try to find the beginners and get them involved. Well, I danced with this lady twice, and both times she spent the whole dance telling me how bored she was. Talking to some other guys later, she did the same thing to them. Odd thing was, she stayed for the whole two hours. And she was by herself, so it's not like she had to wait for a ride or anything. I don't know if she was trying to get a guy to pick her up or what. Whatever, she never came back.

cornutt said:

I don't know if she was trying to get a guy to pick her up or what. Whatever, she never came back.

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I think that is part of the reason why I first joined the owner told me that this wasn't a pickup joint lol. I had to laugh about that, because I was like well why am I here then lol? He just laughed. But there are people that go to these events for that reason. I had two mothers tell me that their sons joined our studio to pick up girls. So, I don't think that issue is something that you can control on the dance floor even though I'm sure that any owner would probably like to. I mean if they are a paying customer and actually do like to dance, are you going to turn them away? Probably not unless they do something totally uncalled for.

I was dancing in a crowded dancefloor and I got bumped into a girl. So I turned to apoligize to her and then she just gave this THIS LOOK. So my dance partner blew her a kiss and then she SMILED and was HAPPY.

mamboqueen said:

I'm with you. I've both said it and have had it said to me and never meant it or took it as an insult. It usually happens with a salsa or merengue, which sometimes can go on f_o_r_e_v_e_r!

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Happened to me just 2 days ago. Was dancing with a very good lead (my teacher's brother). We were both very tired and I was wearing 3" heels shock, but we said what the heck. It was a mambo/salsa and it must ahev lasted 5 minutes. At some point were were going "WTF, isn't it going to END?" :lol:
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