Sagitta said:
I've noticed that in rueda there are some women (straight) who want to, and take the leader's role, on a somehwhat permanent basis. I've never seen men do the opposite, taking the followers role!! Is this an anomally to my area or is this common where others are? I wonder why?
I can't really speak for reuda, but partner dancing in general tends to restrict the guys to the leaders roles, but allows women more freedom to do both sides. It's like a lot of other things, like clothes. Guys can "only" wear pants, whereas women can wear skirts or dresses _and_ pants. Otherwise the guys are gay, and who wants those people around? (Not my opinion, obviously, but I think that kind of thought restricts a lot of guys.)
Men doing the follower role seems fairly common among swing dancers, but it started with women learning the leaders role. Men still don't do the follower role that often, but it does happen.
In the ballroom world (outside of the gay communities) it is very uncommon to see role switching, in large part because competitions are gender role fixed. Leaders are men and followers are women, and that is the only combination allowed.
Social dancing is (obviously) more loose, but men still tend to restrict themselves to doing the leader role. Why? I think it goes back to what it means to be "a man". Men tend to think hierarchically (think team captains) and are "supposed to be" in charge, and so aren't willing to give up the control necessary to be a follower. Women tend to think of themselves as part of a group first, and don't (generally) like to elevate themselves above others and so tend to accept the follower role. As human culture is changing, women are experienceing more freedom, wheras men are still restricting themselves.
Luckily I'm a teacher so I am "supposed to" know both sides, so I'm free to do both roles. Following is fun, and totally different from leading! Except when guys won't dance with me because I'm a guy. That's no fun at all.
Kevin