What attributes of men attract women at a social dance?
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Swing Kitten
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not holding a beer
dancin_feet
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Competent lead and a sexy little hip sway doesn't go astray either!!
salsachinita
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Confident but not obnoxious 8) !
Suave but not sleazy.
Enjoying the dance & love women's company (not using them as organic dance apparatus or objects of fantasy.......you get my drift).
Completely at ease in the environment, wherever that might be.
Suave but not sleazy.
Enjoying the dance & love women's company (not using them as organic dance apparatus or objects of fantasy.......you get my drift).
Completely at ease in the environment, wherever that might be.
what girls really
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that is unfortunately dead and new. They asked the similar question. I wonder what would be the result although they joke. Guys always look for new cool figures (one reason I guess, to impress her). I think women dont care at all.
I am actually disappointed to see that some handsome and quite "touchy" mail dancers are very "popular" (the one I have in mind looks very boring to me and disrespectful toward own girlfriend).
Well, ok, maybe I am jealous to his popularity
So girls please tell us.
I like this one
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that is unfortunately dead and new. They asked the similar question. I wonder what would be the result although they joke. Guys always look for new cool figures (one reason I guess, to impress her). I think women dont care at all.
I am actually disappointed to see that some handsome and quite "touchy" mail dancers are very "popular" (the one I have in mind looks very boring to me and disrespectful toward own girlfriend).
Well, ok, maybe I am jealous to his popularity
So girls please tell us.
I like this one
volleybgrl
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salsachinita said:
You hit this one on the head. A smile here and there doesn't hurt. Also, someone who looks like he's out to have fun...all of which are displayed both on and off the dance floor.
borikensalsero
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Let me see what I look for in a hunk when I go out with my skirt and hight heels. Hmmmm, hmmmm... Hmmmm.... Hmmmm... I think I'm still looking....
Hmm. Not sure. The really handsome guys, I generally don't ask to dance -- I know I'm prejudiced here, but I've run into too many jumbo sized egos not to be cautious. The showy dancers, I definitely don't ask -- I want a good dancer, not a show-off. So I'm still thinking. I guess I ask two types of guys to dance. The shy/new/not-so-great dancers who need encouragement. And the solid technique, understated but darn good dancers, for my dancing pleasure. :wink: 8)
peachexploration
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:lol: :lol:borikensalsero said:
I love it when a guy has:
Confidence, not arrogance
Passionate movement, not sleaziness
Respect for women in general
Taken the time to be well groomed
A big turnoff is a guy saying to me "Let me lead" before we even start dancing or before he has even seen me dance! Dude, we already know what your role is, get over yourself! :evil: (She says as she leaves him on the dance floor......)
Vince A
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I'm proud of you for leaving him alone on the dance floor. I loathe individuals like that . . .peachexploration said:
After asking her to dance, I once had a young lady do a very similar thing, saying "I want to lead, do you follow?"
Why didn't she ask another female to dance to WCS? However, I danced with her and was able to practice my French Crosses a lot, and, when I hi-jacked her, she didn't like it, again saying (like a spoiled child) "I want to lead, I said."
Gr-r-r-r-r-r-r-r . . . I've never danced with her again!
borikensalsero
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Vince A said:
Good for you Vince!!! Such dancers are such a turn offfff...
I'm exactly the same way, Jenn! (Poor poor handsome guys :lol: )pygmalion said:
50% of guys I ask fall into this "shy" category (the other 50% are the guys I know). There are two reasons for this: (1) I'm shy beginner myself and most of the times I feel uncomfortable imposing myself on experienced dancers, unless they ask me; (2) I like to facilitate (especially at socials) a kind of environment where as many people as possible are enjoying themselves instead of struggling with their insecurities...pygmalion said:
Some of my shy invitees (is there such a word? :shock: ) turn out to be good dancers! (I got my best so far bachata dance that way!)
Vince A said:
So she asked you to follow, you agreed, and then hijacked her lead? Wouldn't you be upset if she was following and tried to hijack you? While a little out of the ordinary, it doesn't seem to me that she's rude for either asking you to follow, or getting upset when you hijacked her.
Ok, fair enough then
Though I might add, that as a relatively beginner lead myself, it is very difficult to respond to someone hijacking you. You're thinking about how to lead, and then all of the sudden you have to respond to someone else's lead. I had it happen once... her toes regretted it
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I don't know though, I guess her tone and attitude would make a big difference in the situation.
Though I might add, that as a relatively beginner lead myself, it is very difficult to respond to someone hijacking you. You're thinking about how to lead, and then all of the sudden you have to respond to someone else's lead. I had it happen once... her toes regretted it
. I don't know though, I guess her tone and attitude would make a big difference in the situation.