GF A Dancer

So, I'm not a dancer (as you can tell by my login name...) Not only am I woefully inept at it, but also I'm not really into that much physical contact with people, well, who aren't my girlfriend. Of course, my girlfriend loves to dance, she's huge into it. Problem is, because I'm such an unphysical person, I get pretty uncomfortable with the kinds of touching she ends up getting into with these other guys, particularly her main partner who has a "huge" crush on her and is always trying to flirt with her.

I'm trying to get myself more into this, I'm taking dance lessons myself for example, and I support her all the way. But have any you guys had an issue like this with your significant other (ie. them getting antsy?) How did they get over this? (And, of course, any tips on how to become an even passable swing dancer would be appreciated too.) ; ) Thanks everyone!

Good luck, notadancer. I haven't experienced that myself, so I can't say. (I've been the dancing half of the couple, so I'm not sure how he felt.) Maybe a couple of the guys here can help you by sharing their experiences.

Welcome to the forums.

My boyfriend doesn't dance, but he loves to watch! I always make sure to come and talk to him between dances, and sit plenty out - but he's made friends with a lot of the people at my studio, and enjoys talking to them. I guess it's just a comfort level with us, but he gets a kick out of watching me dance with some other guy while sneaking glances at him (what can i say? I love to watch him watch! :wink: ) None of the guys that I dance with have crushes on me though, so that might make it different . . .

I guess it all just comes down to what you're comfortable with.

Notadancer said:

So, I'm not a dancer (as you can tell by my login name...) Not only am I woefully inept at it, but also I'm not really into that much physical contact with people, well, who aren't my girlfriend. Of course, my girlfriend loves to dance, she's huge into it.

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Welcome Notadancer and count your blessings -- you lucky dog, you have a built-in dance partner :together:

Well thank you all for the warm welcome, it's good to be here! Yeah... I'll definitely have a built in dance partner once I learn to dance decently... Actually, this is sort of my plan. My gf and this guy aren't like formal partners or anything, he's just one of the better dancers at their club, and she pretty much turns a blind eye to him trying to hit on her. So I figure, if I can become a decent dancer then there's no reason for her not to choose to dance with me as her more regular partner instead of him. Everyone wins, except the would-be competition. And somehow, I don't feel so much sympathy for him. ; )

Welcome to df Notadancer, and may I say Soontobeadancer? It does become a problem when one partner is not used to the close physical contact that people have with their significant other. For each couple it's just something that you need to work out with each other.