Let me show you how its really done!

I've noticed a strange situation happen the last few times I've been out dancing, and firstly I thought it was all in my head. Now that I've seen it happen twice in one weekend at two different dance venues, I'm fully convinced that it isn't coincidence at all! :roll:

Here's what I've noticed:

There is one guy I see at Salsa events who usually sits down a lot, but is quite a good dancer. However - whenever I ask a lady to dance (especially if she is a newcomer to the club or really cute), he will usually immediately ask her to dance right after me, and then proceed to woo her with his extensive array of fancy moves. I mean hey, its human nature to be competitive, however this is happening so frequently I can't help but notice how strange it is!

So last Friday I was out at a new Salsa venue, and had a wonderful Merengue with this really sweet Latina. As soon as the dance was over "Mr. Fancy Pants" as I call him came over and started dancing with her. I didn't notice this until near the end of the dance as I was dancing with someone else, but he then proceeded to walk right by me and give me a sneer (the week before he purposely bumped into me on purpose and didn't apologize)! :shock:

I almost started laughing at him, and figured again it was coincidence...but this Sunday he did it again! I had a few dances with two different Salseras, and sure enough, he proceeded to dance with both of them right after I did! Again, I still can't figure out folks who do this, I feel like saying "hey, find your own darn dance partners, you (*@#($&@#($@!! copycat!" :lol:

At first it kind of bothered me, but now I just laugh about it and I have to ask the gang here, has anyone else noticed this strange phenomenon while out dancing?

Best,

SG

No, but take it as a sign that the lady who told you that you were the best dancer in the room was telling you the truth afterall :wink:

PS. How do you know that he was actually sneering at you? Perhaps he had some cabbage stuck in his teeth :twisted: :lol:

PSS. Perhaps your taste/choice in dance partners is so similar, he let's you "warm up" the girls to make it easier for him to a smoother dance?

PSSS. Maybe he is hoping that by dancing with the girls immediately after you do, some of your style will rub off on him :wink:

Trust me Pacion, it was a sneer, and a right good one at that! So sad...:roll:

Easier said than done, but, try to ignore him as ultimately, he is the insecure one. He sounds like one of those animals who feels that he has to mark/reclaim his territory.

People are odd, aren't they?

I haven't had a case as bad as yours, but I have had some strange occurances over the years:

One time, I had a drunk guy keep on bumping into me every chance he got. So instead of getting mad and starting a fight (like I think he wanted), I started talking to him - asking him if he was having a good time, commenting about all the attractive ladies out on the dancefloor, etc. He was fine with me after that. (I've seen too many fights in the local salsa club for me to get dragged into *that*!)

Then there's this one guy, who gets all clingy with the ladies, especially beginners. He's somewhere between beginner and intermediate himself, and he starts to act like he "owns" a gal just because he dances with her in a class or possibly takes a private with her as his partner. He takes offense if you dance with her, even to the point where I've had the woman in question call me over, ask me to dance, and then confide to me that she wanted to get away from him. Hey, it's not like I'm doing anything more than dancing with her for a song or two. And he'll spend all night trying to dance with a (reluctant) gal if she lets him. And then, of course, he'll blame me for "taking her away" from him.

He's a potential problem, and I'd rather distance myself from the drama.

Man SG that is ridiculous! Some people's egos...

The world is filled with weird people. :?

Pacion said:

take it as a sign that the lady who told you that you were the best dancer in the room was telling you the truth afterall :wink:

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That's also the impression I'm getting -- it's just a particularly male (read: immature :wink way of complementing another male. He sees you as a competition, a threat to his alpha salsero supremacy. :lol:

Yes, things like that happen...

Or they can be reversed: People don't want to dance with you anymore after to left one school for another or after you've danced with others they don't like...

All the above happened to me and my partner... and I think it's soooooo stupid!!!

But that's life!

Pacion said:

Easier said than done, but, try to ignore him as ultimately, he is the insecure one. He sounds like one of those animals who feels that he has to mark/reclaim his territory.

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Ditto. Let's just say that I know such territorial marking only too well :roll: !

Yup,

If this happenned to me I would find it hard to control myself from freaking out, however the best thing to do is show no reaction.

The ladies will make up there own minds anyway about who they like dancing with, although he can always ask them and they probably will dance with him.

I think he has something to prove between himself and you. He wants to show you that he is better than you.

In a way this is a reverse compliment to you, he may well look at you as being his only threat at the clubs you go to he wants to be the number one guy, and right now he sees you in his way.

However I gotta ask this question....
Do you guys have a history ?

salsachinita said:

Pacion said:

Easier said than done, but, try to ignore him as ultimately, he is the insecure one. He sounds like one of those animals who feels that he has to mark/reclaim his territory.

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Ditto. Let's just say that I know such territorial marking only too well :roll: !

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so now you know how a fire hydrant feels?

i think sg should actually set up a few friends to dance with who will tell the next guy "the guy i was dancing with just before you was so much more _________ than you are" - and then go back to ask sg to dance again, like they need him to cleanse the palate... i'd pay money to watch that!

grrr... tsb, that's awful! :twisted: :roll: 8)

youngsta said:

Man SG that is ridiculous! Some people's egos...

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Right Younsta. People like this have to no clue about what Salsa is suppose to be. It is total EGO and/or people with low opinions of themselves and want to blame someone else instead of looking in the mirror. Please, give me a break. :roll: Can't stand that. Unfortunately, it's just the nature of the beast. Every time I go to a class, I always get these "sizing up the competition" looks from men and women. Not that I'm that great but alot of people are just wired that way. Again, no clue at all about what Salsa is supposed to be. SG, the good thing is, if they're jealous, you must be doing something right. :wink: 8)

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i think sg should actually set up a few friends to dance with who will tell the next guy "the guy i was dancing with just before you was so much more _________ than you are" - and then go back to ask sg to dance again, like they need him to cleanse the palate... i'd pay money to watch that!

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:lol: Great idea....! So would I!!!!!!!