Thank you for resurrecting this thread - its one that hits home for me!
As I'm still in the greenie dance phase myself, I've found that one of the most important things an experienced follow can do is let the leader
lead.
Simple in theory, but I've found out on the dance floor a lot of women will think its cute to backlead the guy especially if he's getting nervous. I had a lady once who started doing all sorts of wild moves on me during a Ballroom Salsa...and I was surprised at first that I was able to put her through some triple spins and hammerlocks...both of which I had never been taught to do. For the first dance it was a lot of fun and she asked me to dance with her again which I accepted. But after a few more dances with her...I realized that she was simply dancing with herself, and I was hanging on for dear life!!! She really enjoyed flirting and flaunting herself towards me...but whenver I tried to lead her to work on my leading skills, she wouldn't budge. Needless to say I avoided her for the rest of the dance after that.

:shock:
On a more positive note, I have also been blessed by those rare and kind hearted ladies who are very patient with a new lead. I've found that when I dance with another beginner, they will not know if the move I am leading them through is being done correctly so we both will develop bad habits.
I've danced with several women who were very experienced dancers, and when I'd start a move and fail to finish it correctly...they wouldn't let me get away with a sloppy technique! I've I didn't lead them all the way through...they would simply wait for me to lead them the right way. I remember one lady during an ECS where I lead her through a turn and then stopped halfway...and she just stayed there, smiled at me and then suddenly I thought "wait, I'm supposed to lead her like this!". After I led her through again, she smiled and said softly "there you go!"...and my confidence suddenly soared.
With someone like this, you learn so much because they take the time to dance WITH you...they don't backlead or complete your failed technique so you don't realize where you need to improve....
When I dance with people who know less than me...I keep things simple. I work on the basics...help them keep the timing correctly (which can be a losing battle sometimes)...and then do some simple turns. I always try to make sure they are having a good time, and if they start to get frusterated I say something nice to cheer them up, and make sure to let them know I appreciated the dance.
Best,
SG