Students bemoan prom night fiasco - school administrators freaked out
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fascination
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A) you would think that adults could somehow manage communication skills that might be somewhat more elegant than having to shut the thing down
B) you would think children could be raised to respond as civil rational human beings
C)ballrom dance and zumba in HS phys ed might have helped to allay this
B) you would think children could be raised to respond as civil rational human beings
C)ballrom dance and zumba in HS phys ed might have helped to allay this
fascination
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yes...agree
"E" anyone?
"E" anyone?
tanya_the_dancer
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The school administration probably warned the students beforehand that they will shut down the music if students do the kind of dancing they were not supposed to do. So they had to follow through, otherwise they would have discredited themselves. So here is
E. be careful with your threats, you might have to follow through on them
E. be careful with your threats, you might have to follow through on them
DanceAngel
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I agree.
danceronice
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The kids need to stop whining and do as they're told. They were warned. Serves them right. And frankly parents who let their kids spend $1300 on a school dance need to get their priorities in order.
DanceAngel
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I don't see why anyone would want to spend $1300. It's a prom not a night at the Oscars.
fascination
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exactly...a pet peeve of mine...I didn't even have a freaking limo at my wedding you think I'm gonna spring for one for a PROM....rotfl
fascination
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then again, I have noticed that in some communities life is...well...so marginal....that very marginal things have to be held up as life's most significant events...
Well what these 'adults' proved is that freak dancing is not tied to any particular kind of music. If the students want to do it, they will do it.
These 'adults' should know that if they are putting on an event that involves dancing, they just have to deal with the reality that some dancing will not be deemed appropriate by their standards, and they have to be prepared to take some measure of action to stop it.
It sounds to me that no proactive measures were taken at all. The adults fully expected this problem with the dancing, and came there armed with undesirable music and ultimatums. No dance lessons offered to give the kids something new to play around with, no real communication to the students that some music would be avoided...
And so the 'adults', in true childlike fashion, pulled the plug on prom.
At least, that is my reading on the article. I suppose there is no real way to know the entire story.
These 'adults' should know that if they are putting on an event that involves dancing, they just have to deal with the reality that some dancing will not be deemed appropriate by their standards, and they have to be prepared to take some measure of action to stop it.
It sounds to me that no proactive measures were taken at all. The adults fully expected this problem with the dancing, and came there armed with undesirable music and ultimatums. No dance lessons offered to give the kids something new to play around with, no real communication to the students that some music would be avoided...
And so the 'adults', in true childlike fashion, pulled the plug on prom.
At least, that is my reading on the article. I suppose there is no real way to know the entire story.
DanceAngel
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Given they spend that kind of money on prom, I can only imagine how much their weddings will cost.
samina
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there was a big fiasco in our community a few years back when, after spending their hundreds of dollars each for the event (or more), the school decided that someone was drunk so they took a whole bunch of students down to the police station for testing. ruined their prom. their test results were all negative. was national news...sillee business. sillee administrators.
my son's prom, actually. i also remember that at the same prom, two waitresses spilled bowls of macaronic salad all over some girls' heads & dresses. sheesh... poor things, what drama.
my son's prom, actually. i also remember that at the same prom, two waitresses spilled bowls of macaronic salad all over some girls' heads & dresses. sheesh... poor things, what drama.
suburbaknght
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There are several factors at work here.
The first is that while the students should behave in a more adult fashion, the teachers need to recognize it's the students' rights to not behave in an adult fashion. Prom is an event held for seniors (yes, underclassmen do attend as guests. This is an important point, but the event is not held for them). In May, a senior is a high school graduate minus one week. In fact, non-graduates are usually not permitted to attend prom. The fact is, these people are for all intents and purposes adults who shortly will be doing the same dances at college parties only not in formal wear - except at Greek formals when it'll be even worse. If you want to stop sexually suggestive dancing, the time to intervene is well before senior prom - I strongly support Dancing Classrooms both as an alternative and as a way to give people an alternative style of dancing - but once the prom rolls around you have to trust the students to do the right thing and live with the consequences of a base, tasteless affair if they don't. As for underclassmen, it's for their parents to decide if they're comfortable letting younger sons and daughters attend an event knowing that sexualized dancing is likely to take place.
Then there's the outrageous sums of money aspect. I don't know who to blame for this. We live in a culture that not only maintains but encourages a princess mentality. True, the teenage girls buy into it, but what about their parents who support it, what about their boyfriends who respond to it, what about their peers who pressure them into it? I rented a tuxedo for my prom (the last time I ever did. For what it cost me to rent a tux, I purchased a phenomenal used tux and got it perfectly tailored), while my date borrowed a vintage kimono and obi. With an orchid corsage to match the kimono's print, I assure you we were a stunning couple. For transportation we carpooled with a friend who restores vintage cars and had a great time. The fact is, however, because satisfaction can't be quantified emphasis is put on cost end effort as a standard of social value. People aren't taught how to have a good experience, so they buy into the trappings - literally.
The first is that while the students should behave in a more adult fashion, the teachers need to recognize it's the students' rights to not behave in an adult fashion. Prom is an event held for seniors (yes, underclassmen do attend as guests. This is an important point, but the event is not held for them). In May, a senior is a high school graduate minus one week. In fact, non-graduates are usually not permitted to attend prom. The fact is, these people are for all intents and purposes adults who shortly will be doing the same dances at college parties only not in formal wear - except at Greek formals when it'll be even worse. If you want to stop sexually suggestive dancing, the time to intervene is well before senior prom - I strongly support Dancing Classrooms both as an alternative and as a way to give people an alternative style of dancing - but once the prom rolls around you have to trust the students to do the right thing and live with the consequences of a base, tasteless affair if they don't. As for underclassmen, it's for their parents to decide if they're comfortable letting younger sons and daughters attend an event knowing that sexualized dancing is likely to take place.
Then there's the outrageous sums of money aspect. I don't know who to blame for this. We live in a culture that not only maintains but encourages a princess mentality. True, the teenage girls buy into it, but what about their parents who support it, what about their boyfriends who respond to it, what about their peers who pressure them into it? I rented a tuxedo for my prom (the last time I ever did. For what it cost me to rent a tux, I purchased a phenomenal used tux and got it perfectly tailored), while my date borrowed a vintage kimono and obi. With an orchid corsage to match the kimono's print, I assure you we were a stunning couple. For transportation we carpooled with a friend who restores vintage cars and had a great time. The fact is, however, because satisfaction can't be quantified emphasis is put on cost end effort as a standard of social value. People aren't taught how to have a good experience, so they buy into the trappings - literally.