Perhaps we can take comfort from this.
"Do you know why you dance beautifully?"
Because you suffer when you dance."
Or, maybe not.
"Do you know why you dance beautifully?"
Because you suffer when you dance."
Or, maybe not.
Ask questions, meet dancers, and be part of the conversation.
As Cacho said in his interview, as I recall, they didn't call it anything down there. It was just salon.
At this point I would have said something playful but challenging like "Sure, let's see what you have". This in itself could have changed the course of the interaction (dialogue + dance).After the first song, she asked if she could give me some feedback, and I said sure, (even though what I was thinking was, "I'd really like to just end this right now").
At this point, if I know she is wrong, at least by generalising the style that she likes, I would say "oh, so this is the style that you prefer(?)". With this I'd put her in the defence position by which I can size her up with how she responds. She may become nice and polite or express some genuine concerns. Or she may defend her position as strongly. If she choose the latter, I'm diffidently not going to dance with her again, but may challenge further if I feel likeShe said stuff about how to position my hands, and such.
When I was studying with Susanna I asked her what they called her style in Argentina. She shrugged her shoulders a bit, then said apilado.
As Cacho said in his interview, as I recall, they did't call it anything down there. It was just salon.
I never liked calling it "milonguero", because there are so many fine dancers, milongueros, in BA who don't dance her style.
For the sake of clarity never mind what anyone else says; apilado=milonguero= weight sharing ie leaning on each other..otherwise how on earth are we going to discuss anything in a meaningful way.
The tricky part is the "shared axis". I think the term is confusing, and I try to avoid it these days. Typically, it depends on the size of the dancers. If two people match a strong forward presence, then the taller heavier person (usually the leader) might not be "off axis" at all, and the follower could be the only one past her personal balance point. The easiest way to put it is apilado is when one or both dancers are past the point when they would fall without someone in front of them. Monica Paz (who also carries on Tete's teachings) says it barely has to be past the balance point at all. You want strong forward intention without weighing down your partner. Which is all about maintaining the core with whatever "lean" you agree on.
advice from Sebastian Arce here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hgxwn7S4TKQ
This is the issue I have with apilado.You want strong forward intention without weighing down your partner.
Methinks it's jsut a style difference. It's very interesting that you really don't like it, because you don't seem to make any effort to avoid it. In fact, it's just about the opposite; you match that strong forward intention every bit. It's incredibly pleasant...for the follower anyway.![]()
Well, yes. Of course. I am about 99.99% sure that I don't have downward force going on, with my arms or otherwise. (I was broken of that habit pretty eary on.) But some people--Joe being a good example--dislike that strong forward connection. However, my suspicion is that it's less the connection itself and more the fact that the way the follower responds in AT v. BR (his background) seems to be quite different. When I was still attempting BR, the criticism I got frequently was that I wasn't moving on my own--that I was having to be pushed. Well, for me it felt normal, like I was maintaining a good connection. I was moving in an AT sort of way. When I would actually get it right, and get told that I was moving nicely, I invariably felt like I was moving away from my partner and completely losing all connection and dancing by myself. I think that is the sort of difference that is playing into Joe's dislike of AT connection. Not necessarily downward force, but the feeling of having to push one's partner...which we around here find normal and desireable.Surely something has gone wrong if the forward intention turns into a downward bearing force acting on your partner? I take the required force to be horizontal, and expect that to achieve mutual balance, once the point of imbalance has been passed for either of us, that the force is equal and opposite - or we carry our partner's weight, or else, fall.
Surely something has gone wrong if the forward intention turns into a downward bearing force acting on your partner? I take the required force to be horizontal, and expect that to achieve mutual balance, once the point of imbalance has been passed for either of us, that the force is equal and opposite - or we carry our partner's weight, or else, fall.
Apilado to equal weight sharing is probably considered by social dancersI love apilado=weight sharing, (not the John Em version)...but few ladies seem capable of it, but my favourite dancer, in Bristol, does a beautiful apilado she just leans into me and we take off. She has core muscles to die for.
in the middle row here http://www.tangoandchaos.org/chapt_2secrets/2basics.htm
you can see the possibilities of a forward lean and how much space it creates between the couple's feet.