holding onto woman's breast - during dance

[tanya_the_dancer]

I am pretty well-endowed and I have had multiple accidental gropes over the years, mostly with newbies. They are quick to reposition and apologize, so I've just sort of learned to accept that if you are a woman with larger breasts and partner dance with people (yes, I've been groped by women before as well, specifically a girl I practice with alot as male practice partners are hard to find), you will be accidentally groped. It just happens.
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GUYS KNOW... And they know that we know they know. Then they either apologize and fix the hand position or keep it there thinking maybe we didn't notice. We did.

You know, by now I think I'm so desensitized to accidental brief touch, that I hardly notice it. The hand has to be there for a while for me to notice and even longer to convince me to do something about it. The only time I ever did something about it was at the group class I mentioned earlier on the thread, when I realized that I'll have to put up with it for the next hour unless I do something about it. Shadow position is probably the biggest source of problems because if the guys go for the same hold they would do on a more conventionally-sized lady, they get a handful on me.

 

[aaah]

I think we all know that, but the original question had pretty much been answered.

Although I don't know why you're harping on the "pretty, petite, skinny" aspects of this.

ok thanks I see the conversation wandered off to occasional brushes

as to your second comment because it is very obvious ..I was putting things in context - at the social dances if you are skinny and pretty - you are popular and attract a lot of attention even if your skill level is zero in essence ..this points to possible non dance motives
the lady I mentioned was a relative newbie

thanks all for feedback

 

[twnkltoz]

ok thanks I see the conversation wandered off to occasional brushes

as to your second comment because it is very obvious ..I was putting things in context - at the social dances if you are skinny and pretty - you are popular and attract a lot of attention even if your skill level is zero in essence ..this points to possible non dance motives
the lady I mentioned was a relative newbie

thanks all for feedback

It doesn't matter what she looks like. Breast grabbing is inappropriate, and it happens to girls of all shapes and sizes.

 

[twothreefourone]

And boys. All-male rumba... once was enough.

 

[danceronice]

lolz....I am beginning to feel a tad concerned...I am fairly well endowed, and no man has ever accidentally, or purposely, brushed up against my bust ... ....that is not in any way meant to make light of women for whom this has been a distressing reality...just a bit perplexed and having a bit of fun with that

Heh, and I'm starting to think I'm even less well-endowed than I thought! (That or sufficient closed-hold Standard has kind of tuned me out to upper-chest contact while dancing...)

 

[Gorme]

lolz....I am beginning to feel a tad concerned...I am fairly well endowed, and no man has ever accidentally, or purposely, brushed up against my bust ... ....that is not in any way meant to make light of women for whom this has been a distressing reality...just a bit perplexed and having a bit of fun with that

On any other occasion, dinner must be bought before any of this can occur.

 

[cornutt]

lolz....I am beginning to feel a tad concerned...I am fairly well endowed, and no man has ever accidentally, or purposely, brushed up against my bust ... ....that is not in any way meant to make light of women for whom this has been a distressing reality...just a bit perplexed and having a bit of fun with that

That can be arranged... Seriously, my DW is well endowed, and, well, it definitely encourages one to maintain a proper topline and lead through the core. I find that if I try to lead through my upper body, I just bounce off.

 

[fascination]

Heh, and I'm starting to think I'm even less well-endowed than I thought! (That or sufficient closed-hold Standard has kind of tuned me out to upper-chest contact while dancing...)

well...that I don't even bat an eyelash over...unless, um, depending upon person involved, I happen to be particularly attuned

 

[fascination]

On any other occasion, dinner must be bought before any of this can occur.

dinner? that is all it takes?

 

[fascination]

That can be arranged... Seriously, my DW is well endowed, and, well, it definitely encourages one to maintain a proper topline and lead through the core. I find that if I try to lead through my upper body, I just bounce off.

 

[jump'n'jive]

oh this thread.....

 

[Peaches]

Heh. I remember one time during a lesson my teacher brushed my chest accidentally, with his forearm, I think. I never noticed; I was too focused on the dancing or instruction or whatever was going on. He apologized, and I had no clue what he was apologizing for, which left him explaining. Awkward moment. Talk about desensitized.

 

[fascination]

oh this thread.....

this is soooooooooooooooooooo mild compared to the good old days

 

[DL]

this is soooooooooooooooooooo mild compared to the good old days

Give me an excuse to resurrect the thread most memorable to me, and I will.

 

[jump'n'jive]

who needs excuses, bring it!