You have my deepest sympathies. Just, regarding the above -- please be careful.
Life is Hard Thread
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You have my deepest sympathies. Just, regarding the above -- please be careful.
flashdance
Active Member
Sorry. I don't. Just wanted to check in and say that I'm glad to "see" you. I was thinking about you. :friend:
Oh my goodness! How did I miss this? I'm so, so sorry to hear this, TD. Not sure what to say, except that you, your Mom and Dad are in my thoughts.
*massive hug*
TinyDancer109
Well-Known Member
thanks all. i am doing a little better now that i have had a couple nights to sleep on it, but needless to say i am still pretty bummed. my parents are working on getting a second opinion from another doctor for treatment options in the meantime.
wonderwoman
Well-Known Member
Hmm. Nope. Used Klonipin though. Helped me sleep and then feel a bit calmer through the next day, or I could split the pills and not feel sleepy with them.. They worked and then they didn't.. I had some scary side-effects. Don't hesitate to call your doc if you do, they can switch you to something different that better suits you
Spitfire
Well-Known Member
Been given a med which helps; been sleeping better.
TinyDancer109
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Two and a half weeks ago ... all is fine.
Then office-mate has a bad back ... takes a day off Monday 12/19. Tuesday it's a stomach problem ... he's is pain ... goes to the doctor ... turns out his small intestine is blocked ... Thursday 12/15 they take out an 8" section and put everything back together and send him home Friday ... he's doing well, does not cancel a business trip scheduled for Wednesday ... Tuesday 12/20 talking to him on speakerphone from supervisor's office ... he mentions he has fallen down ... ha ha ... finishes call and hangs up ... supervisor and I later get email saying he couldn't get back up ... legs have failed ... he got a trip to the hospital in an ambulance ... he is in too much pain to sit still for an MRI so diagnosing is difficult ... many phone calls ... Thursday he conferences in to staff meeting ... tells everyone that diagnosis is aggressive lymphoma with a tumor pressing against his spine causing a loss of lower motor control, will start chemo that afternoon ... more phone calls ... Friday is department holiday breakfast ... supervisor (recently divorced) brings teenage daughter in ... I bring DH ... call co-worker but get voicemail... go to breakfast ... the four of us hide out from everyone else and have breakfast in quiet conference room, discussing holiday plans etc., ... DH and I go off to spend day as tourists in San Francisco ... co-worker calls ... things progressing ... will spend Christmas in hospital and start chemo on Tuesday ... by the way, did supervisor let you know he is in hospital ... turns out supervisor fainted while out with daughter on Friday ... taken in ambulance to hospital ... apparently released ....
Every time I think of calling co-worker on Saturday, I think "let me just finish this one thing, and I then I'll call" but by the time I think of him while I'm not actively engaged in something it's 12:30 am on Christmas, so I don't call.
I finally call on Christmas (today) when my family is gone and we're winding down ... he has had a good a Christmas as is possible in a hospital, including many visitors and presents ... the hospital actually lets his husband bring his dog to visit (the dog has been a daily visitor from the beginning). He is incredibly upbeat, considering the prospect of chemotherapy for the next few months.
But on a personal level, there are only the three of us in our group, and we've been looking for a fourth person for over 6 months because of the workload ... with one out and one marginal, I'm on the hook ... I can handle my normal workload, but I can't do the work of four people ... if my supervisor has just a temporary problem we might be able to hold things together ... why do things happen all at once? I want co-worker to focus on recovery and not workload ... ARRGGGHHHH.
Then office-mate has a bad back ... takes a day off Monday 12/19. Tuesday it's a stomach problem ... he's is pain ... goes to the doctor ... turns out his small intestine is blocked ... Thursday 12/15 they take out an 8" section and put everything back together and send him home Friday ... he's doing well, does not cancel a business trip scheduled for Wednesday ... Tuesday 12/20 talking to him on speakerphone from supervisor's office ... he mentions he has fallen down ... ha ha ... finishes call and hangs up ... supervisor and I later get email saying he couldn't get back up ... legs have failed ... he got a trip to the hospital in an ambulance ... he is in too much pain to sit still for an MRI so diagnosing is difficult ... many phone calls ... Thursday he conferences in to staff meeting ... tells everyone that diagnosis is aggressive lymphoma with a tumor pressing against his spine causing a loss of lower motor control, will start chemo that afternoon ... more phone calls ... Friday is department holiday breakfast ... supervisor (recently divorced) brings teenage daughter in ... I bring DH ... call co-worker but get voicemail... go to breakfast ... the four of us hide out from everyone else and have breakfast in quiet conference room, discussing holiday plans etc., ... DH and I go off to spend day as tourists in San Francisco ... co-worker calls ... things progressing ... will spend Christmas in hospital and start chemo on Tuesday ... by the way, did supervisor let you know he is in hospital ... turns out supervisor fainted while out with daughter on Friday ... taken in ambulance to hospital ... apparently released ....
Every time I think of calling co-worker on Saturday, I think "let me just finish this one thing, and I then I'll call" but by the time I think of him while I'm not actively engaged in something it's 12:30 am on Christmas, so I don't call.
I finally call on Christmas (today) when my family is gone and we're winding down ... he has had a good a Christmas as is possible in a hospital, including many visitors and presents ... the hospital actually lets his husband bring his dog to visit (the dog has been a daily visitor from the beginning). He is incredibly upbeat, considering the prospect of chemotherapy for the next few months.
But on a personal level, there are only the three of us in our group, and we've been looking for a fourth person for over 6 months because of the workload ... with one out and one marginal, I'm on the hook ... I can handle my normal workload, but I can't do the work of four people ... if my supervisor has just a temporary problem we might be able to hold things together ... why do things happen all at once? I want co-worker to focus on recovery and not workload ... ARRGGGHHHH.
fascination
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sorry to hear this zhena...that is alot to carry