Men dancing with men

I've done it, but I always find it awkward. Has nothing to do with any sexual connotation -- I just don't like the way that men move. :D If I'm going to follow, I'd much rather reverse roles with a woman.
 
Outside of class situations, I have no interest in dancing with a guy. Plus, there are always more ladies than guys at dances. So they would shoot both guys because that leaves two ladies sitting out :)
 
kayak said:
Outside of class situations, I have no interest in dancing with a guy. Plus, there are always more ladies than guys at dances. So they would shoot both guys because that leaves two ladies sitting out :)
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So what's the best way to overcome this problem and still be a male follower?

Get the lady to lead, and the man to follow. I have done this before at a social. I have never danced man-man at a social.
 
I'm of the firm belief that all men should practice following and all women should practice leading. Nothing makes you more aware of your partner than stepping into his or her role.

That said, I do enjoy following on occasion - usually smooth more than rhythm - and I may be doing same sex competition before regular competition due to delay in reinstating my amateur status (same sex comps don't always draw a distinction).
 
waltzguy said:
So what's the best way to overcome this problem and still be a male follower?

Get the lady to lead, and the man to follow. I have done this before at a social. I have never danced man-man at a social.
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Around here, the only dance a man-man situation would work on without incurring female wrath is V.Waltz. There's an shortage of women who can do that dance. So the remaining guys either dance it alone or with each other.
 
I've seen it a few times.

One teacher I know will often dance WCS as a follow, usually with a particular student (with whom he's good friends) who gets very embarrassed to be dancing with another guy. The teacher hams it up, and it's just hilarious to watch.

I've seen it a few times with AT. Open embrace. It started out as a joke--it was one guy's birthday dance, and another male teacher joined the rotation...and kept it. It was fascinating to watch, because it completely changed the look of the dance. I wish I'd gotten it on video, because it was beautiful. I found the same thing other times, as well--the character of the dance just becomes very different, very powerful somehow.

As for girls & girls--I've danced close embrace AT with a woman before. Several times throughout the particular evening, since there was a shortage of leaders, and she was good. Aside from the technical difficulties of boobs being in the way (she was rather well-endowed) which dampens the feel of the lead, it was great. I found her to be an inordinately considerate leader. I could feel her understanding of what I needed as a follower, and it was awesome. I'd jump at the chance to follow a woman again.
 
Chiron said:
There seems to be a bit of conversation about this in another thread so I thought I would break it off into a new thread.

How many of the guys here have danced with other guys?
For the women... what do think when you see two guys dancing together?

As for me I'll admit I like a good lead now and then. I'll admit there is some machismo in showing I can follow ;). I've danced standard and latin with some of the male pros at the studio. When I've danced latin the charactistic of the dance changes some, flirting is gone and it is more competitive (sort of like when you are wrestling with your brother) and everything also becomes a lot harder and sharper.
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I actually teach a couple (man/man). They each counldn't find a partner that was willing to practice as much and as hard as they wanted. They both looked for partners for a about six month and finally decided to dance together. They are going to some big competitions in Europe. One of the competitions was in Denmark and the other was in either Holland or Germany. I do think one of the competitions was the World Championship and the other was Guy Olympics.

How do I feel about teaching them? Not a problem. To me the important thing is, they want to dance and they are eager to learn, two of the most important things for dancers. I just had get used to use the terms initiator and responder again as I have not used those terms like that since moving to the US.

Dancepro
 
I think it would be ABnormal at one of our social dances for guys not to dance together at least one or two times. I guess that's just how my team rolls... most of our guys are pretty darn secure. :)
 
dancepro said:
I actually teach a couple (man/man). They each counldn't find a partner that was willing to practice as much and as hard as they wanted. They both looked for partners for a about six month and finally decided to dance together. They are going to some big competitions in Europe. One of the competitions was in Denmark and the other was in either Holland or Germany. I do think one of the competitions was the World Championship and the other was Guy Olympics.

How do I feel about teaching them? Not a problem. To me the important thing is, they want to dance and they are eager to learn, two of the most important things for dancers. I just had get used to use the terms initiator and responder again as I have not used those terms like that since moving to the US.

Dancepro
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Do they alternate lead/follow or has one switched?
 
I have danced a few steps with my studio owner in classes. He wanted the guys to see what a particular lead should feel like. Didn't bother me and I really was curious to see what kind of lead he is, but I doubt I'd dance at a social with another guy.

I'm told, and I have no idea if this is accurate, that Argentine tango was originally danced by men together and it was a macho thing sort of like an upright wrestling match and to see who had the best moves.
 
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