Recipes thread

[Sagitta]

That's fine, IMO. As long as you and your family are eating, who cares who cooks? :lol: You get to set your own priorities.

I think that's one of the things that really damaged my relationship with the ex. I love cooking. But he expected me to cook and saw anything food-related as my sole responsiblity. I didn't mind, at first, but once I started feeling taken for granted, the thing I used to love became a burden.

Structure your life in a way that makes you happy, IMO. There's nothing wrong with that. No guilt, sweetie. Especially now that there are so many healthful options out there -- convenience foods from the supermarket (not fast food -- healthful food that's already cooked,) restaurants that deliver honest-to-goodness dinner, etc., there's no need to set your priorities such that you spend an hour a day in the kitchen, unless you want to. My two cents.

My cousin's husband does all the cooking. My cousin has cooked 4 times in 3 years!!

 

[Rosa]

I think that's one of the things that really damaged my relationship with the ex. I love cooking. But he expected me to cook and saw anything food-related as my sole responsiblity. I didn't mind, at first, but once I started feeling taken for granted, the thing I used to love became a burden.

I recognise this...

Rosa

 

[pygmalion]

Yeah, Rosa. I recognize some of the things you've said, as well. :? :friend:

 

[Rosa]

Yeah, Rosa. I recognize some of the things you've said, as well. :? :friend:

Thanks, Jenn. :together:

Rosa

 

[fascination]

That's fine, IMO. As long as you and your family are eating, who cares who cooks? :lol: You get to set your own priorities.

I think that's one of the things that really damaged my relationship with the ex. I love cooking. But he expected me to cook and saw anything food-related as my sole responsiblity. I didn't mind, at first, but once I started feeling taken for granted, the thing I used to love became a burden.

Structure your life in a way that makes you happy, IMO. There's nothing wrong with that. No guilt, sweetie. Especially now that there are so many healthful options out there -- convenience foods from the supermarket (not fast food -- healthful food that's already cooked,) restaurants that deliver honest-to-goodness dinner, etc., there's no need to set your priorities such that you spend an hour a day in the kitchen, unless you want to. My two cents.

:kissme: i've got to put you on my speed dial

 

[lynn]

Being a modern woman is no easy job - many have full time job and on top of that, they need to take care of the kids (& maybe the husbands too??), cook, clean...etc..etc..etc!!

 

[pygmalion]

Being a modern woman is no easy job - many have full time job and on top of that, they need to take care of the kids (& maybe the husbands too??), cook, clean...etc..etc..etc!!

True. :?

 

[lynn]

Many struggle between being a full-time housewife/mom or continue with career - and i've seen some having a super hard time juggling both. It sometimes makes me wonder whether the traditional model (where dad goes working and mom stays home) or the modern model (both working with kids being taken care of by a nanny or off to pre-school) is the better one??

 

[fascination]

Many struggle between being a full-time housewife/mom or continue with career - and i've seen some having a super hard time juggling both. It sometimes makes me wonder whether the traditional model (where dad goes working and mom stays home) or the modern model (both working with kids being taken care of by a nanny or off to pre-school) is the better one??

both can be done poorly ...both can be done well...most of the time it wiggles btwn the two...IMO...this week I am losing the battle for balance....oh well...sips more nog...non alcoholic tonight

 

[lynn]

don't worry, fascination, it's the heart that counts :wink:!! I thnk you make a wonderful mom/wife!

 

[pygmalion]

both can be done poorly ...both can be done well...most of the time it wiggles btwn the two...IMO...this week I am losing the battle for balance....oh well...sips more nog...non alcoholic tonight

You have good reasons to be out of balance. Give yourself a break. Just my thought. :friend:

 

[fascination]

sheesh ...you people will help me rationalize my way out of anything ...hug, hug, kiss, kiss...(and yes, I know you mean it and am so grateful)

 

[lynn]

On a separate note, my eggplant turned out o.k. (yay :banana:!!!!) It didn't look too pretty, but hey, at least it's edible!!

P.S. Assembling layers of macaroni + eggplant/tomato + onion/garlic + cheese turned out to be the toughest part!

There's a reason why i don't make lasagna!!

 

[cocodrilo]

On a separate note, my eggplant turned out o.k. (yay :banana:!!!!) It didn't look too pretty, but hey, at least it's edible!!

P.S. Assembling layers of macaroni + eggplant/tomato + onion/garlic + cheese turned out to be the toughest part!

There's a reason why i don't make lasagna!!

Check out the first recipe I posted for eggplant, Lynn. The parmigiana is definitely time-consuming and not for beginning cooks.

 

[pygmalion]

sheesh ...you people will help me rationalize my way out of anything ...hug, hug, kiss, kiss...(and yes, I know you mean it and am so grateful)

Oh for Pete's sake! If you just want to feel guilty you certainly can. But, from my perspective, a few things are true.

One. I've never seen a man sit around and wonder whether or not he was successfully achieving what he needed to, while balancing the roles of employee and husband (and/or father.) (And oh btw wondering how his thighs looked. :lol: )

And two. I've seen many a relatively poor single mother successfully raise children to adulthood -- children who became happy, well-adjusted doctors or lawyers or other professional people.

And three. I've seen women stress out over the little details, that's true. But the successful, gorgeous, well-put-together women I know stress out only over the big things. They don't sweat the small stuff. (Maybe they read the book :lol: ) Cut yourself some slack, IMO.