I generally prefer the sharper rhythmic accents of the 30s and 40s to the smoother sound of the 50s and 60s.
The sharper rhythm requires stepping into the floor, sometimes almost 'stamping' to the rhythm of the piano or 'jabbing' to the rhythm of the bandoneon.
I can understand this impulse for that specific kind of music, but as a middle-aged+ woman with various foot and joint problems, I'm not going to put extra pressure on my feet, metatarsals, and toes by doing any "stamping" or "jabbing", especially in high heels.
Preventing excess impact has become rather important. However, I assure you that you'd still be able to feel where I am, and I could match your general feeling in the music without risking pain.
Of course, there's always the possibility that I wouldn't enjoy dancing with you if I felt a constant need to use extra amounts of heavy downward pressure. You may not like dancing with me if I can't stomp.
That doesn't make your way "right" and mine "wrong". It means you have a preference for a specific musical and dancing style that may not mesh with mine. My quibble is that your way of writing implies that what you are saying is universal and should be universally applied. You clearly didn't mean it that way, but it reads that way.
Softening the step upon floor contact makes for a floating feeling, which may be musically representative some of the time during a song/piece, but most of the time, it isn't.
(my bold)
And here's an example of what I meant...
I assume when you say "most of the time it isn't", you mean that it isn't for
the songs you prefer to dance. But it doesn't read that way... it reads that your style is more representative of the music most of the time
in general, all night,
everywhere, and as such should be how
everyone dances
most of the time.
For the sum total of songs that get played (at least around here) I'd say that smooth is represented musically
far more than "stamping" (marching). I think my partner is one of the few die hard D'Arienzo fans here. So "most of the time" softening IS representative of the music played.
Unless we are counting milongas. Milongas often have a more "up and down" stomping feeling to them and many people here dance them that way. Rhythm becomes more important than melody. Then they change to a smooth style for tangos, waltzes, and especially alternative music where melody gets more focus.