Wow, it's been a while since the OP. I wonder if they are still partners. This sounds like you two have different goals. Both are valid. He is entitled to have his own as are you. I'd say stop trying to change him and work on yourself (step it up) or get over it.
I don't think so much about purposefully shutting people out as it is about wanting to be around or associating with people who share or have similar values as you. It's about the laws of attraction, "like attracts like". I consider myself an honest person with integrity and when I commit myself...
This happened to me a few times too and my attitude with regard to whether or not to dance with her in the future has become -- I am turned off by people who don't have the same values as I do (if that's what Dance Monkey meant by "Standards") and therefore I don't really care to associate with...
I admired Salomon. He was one of my first instructors. Just curious what is so special about the way he does his cross body lead? I like the way he dances, but the xbody lead, I don't remember.
I think I fall into the second category of leaders. I used to know quite a few fancy moves of complicated turn patterns and tricks, but they required a skilled follower to follow them. Unfortunately, relatively skilled followers are few in clubs. So I adapted and focused on trying to be as...
Showing that you are having a good time trumps whether you can follow all the moves with perfection. But then again there's the other extreme. I recently had a dance with a lady at a social. She seemed like she was having a great time, laughing a her mistakes. The problem was there were so many...
You shot him down two for two.
1. Possibility of a romantic relationship.
2. A serious dance partnership with the goal to improve and perform.
Are you maybe disatisfied/frustrated with your own progress?
I agree. I think Bruno is the worst culprit, but for some reason he's been brutal with Chaz. I can see on the judges faces that they sometimes strugled to find something positive to say about some performances.
What is side load? Try this exercise. Stand up straight with feet together and imagine your body is stick from head to toe that is unable to be bent. Now, pick up some thing heavy like a bucket of water or a gallon of milk. You'll experience a side load.