The top 5 reasons a woman wants to dance with a specific man
- Thread starter Zoopsia59
- Start date
In other words, how she feels about herself after dancing with you is going to significantly influence how she feels about YOU.
Lilly_of_the_valley
Well-Known Member
Zoopsia, you might be onto something here. 
bastet
Active Member
totally agree....though I do like to add nice embrace (of whatever style he dances) in there too, but I tend to believe that the two go hand in hand.
Peaches
Well-Known Member
1. Being able to "see the music" in his dancing. Musicality, musicality, musicality! Variety, rhythm, creativity. I don't care what style he's dancing (milonguero, salon, nuevo, whatever). I don't care if the steps are simple or athletic (although if he's leading athletic he damn well better be doing it safely and responsibly). I don't care if he's dancing close or open, V-embrace or flat on. I want to see the music through him.
2. Connection. Some men I click with, some men I don't. I won't turn down a guy I don't particularly click with, but I WANT to dance with the guys I do click with.
3. Politeness and consideration. Considerate to me, to others; on the floor, off the floor.
4. Embrace. 'nuff said.
5. Er...
ETA: Oh yeah. Maybe this goes with #3... Dance with me. Not for yourself. Not showing off. Not for an ego trip. With.me. If I can't get it, don't keep trying it, don't stop and try to teach me. For the love of god, don't try and force me to do it. Let it go. It's not a reflection of you or your abilities as a man. Dance with me.
2. Connection. Some men I click with, some men I don't. I won't turn down a guy I don't particularly click with, but I WANT to dance with the guys I do click with.
3. Politeness and consideration. Considerate to me, to others; on the floor, off the floor.
4. Embrace. 'nuff said.
5. Er...
ETA: Oh yeah. Maybe this goes with #3... Dance with me. Not for yourself. Not showing off. Not for an ego trip. With.me. If I can't get it, don't keep trying it, don't stop and try to teach me. For the love of god, don't try and force me to do it. Let it go. It's not a reflection of you or your abilities as a man. Dance with me.
fascination
Site Moderator
smells good
shuts up
doesn't try to impress me with fancy crap
shuts up
doesn't try to impress me with fancy crap
this cannot be overrated; there are guys I like to dance with just b/c they smell so good
However, the other 4:
is enjoying himself and communicating it
is dancing with me, not by himself with me there just so he doesn't look stupid
can laugh when things go awry
knows what he wants and leads it in time for me to respond
Reasons to ask someone to dance:
1.Good dance skills, i.e. smooth, accurate, good floorcraft, nice embrace. But the first two are the most important so it doesn't exclude people who mainly just want to walk or are relatively inexperienced.
2.Nice, friendly, genuine, likeable person who shows courtesy and consideration to me and others.
3.Someone who is trying hard to learn.
4.Has a nice shirt, or is dressed in a way particularly pleasing to me.
5.Smells great. Lots of people smell OK, but it seems to me that with a small amount of extra effort and expenditure on some fancy designer cologne more men could smell GREAT and have women clamouring over them.
6.I see them as a means of extending my personal experience of the dance and an opportunity to develop or practise new skills. This is about the only thing that will prod me into asking someone to dance who I see as being much higher up the tango pecking order than me.
7. Someone who I know will dance in such a musically apt, varied and creative way that my attention will be fixed on him to the exclusion of everything else for the entire tanda.
Realistically, only numbers 1,2 and 3 apply to most of my tango existence. 4 and 5 are luxurious inessentials and 6 and 7 are occasional treats.
In my early years of dancing jive I often chose new partners on the basis of shoes but not any more as I realised there was insufficient correlation of shoes and ability.
1.Good dance skills, i.e. smooth, accurate, good floorcraft, nice embrace. But the first two are the most important so it doesn't exclude people who mainly just want to walk or are relatively inexperienced.
2.Nice, friendly, genuine, likeable person who shows courtesy and consideration to me and others.
3.Someone who is trying hard to learn.
4.Has a nice shirt, or is dressed in a way particularly pleasing to me.
5.Smells great. Lots of people smell OK, but it seems to me that with a small amount of extra effort and expenditure on some fancy designer cologne more men could smell GREAT and have women clamouring over them.
6.I see them as a means of extending my personal experience of the dance and an opportunity to develop or practise new skills. This is about the only thing that will prod me into asking someone to dance who I see as being much higher up the tango pecking order than me.
7. Someone who I know will dance in such a musically apt, varied and creative way that my attention will be fixed on him to the exclusion of everything else for the entire tanda.
Realistically, only numbers 1,2 and 3 apply to most of my tango existence. 4 and 5 are luxurious inessentials and 6 and 7 are occasional treats.
In my early years of dancing jive I often chose new partners on the basis of shoes but not any more as I realised there was insufficient correlation of shoes and ability.
I would prefer that my partners have as little aroma as possible. After a tanda of close embrace, I'm likely to have that scent on me and by the end of an evening, I'm going to have quite a mix of scents on me. That's probably going to smell weird. Besides, what woman wants to smell like the last guy when dancing with the next guy? What guy wants his partner to smell like men's aftershave?
If the guy wears only a tiny amount and he only puts it where it never touches me, that's fine. But too often my cheek smells like cologne or aftershave and the front of my dress smells like his scent as well. Why do guys put cologne on their chest? What's up with that? Or do they just splash it all over their neck and it dribbles down? Why do I come home from dances with my dress smelling scented by men's cologne?
Which goes right along with my #'s 1-5. If he's not dancing with you, but merely using you as a prop, or if he's insistent about the move you can't get, it's not going to make you feel like a million bucks or like the highlight of his night.
I think its more awkward when you are with your date or partner.. It's probably a little off-putting to go home with your wife and have an... ahem... intimate end to the evening when she smells like some other guy.
Captain Jep
Active Member
Dunno about cologne but men often put talcum powder on their chests. Maybe they assume that's where the lady will be resting their head ... like a scented pillow ... lol