Amazing dance connections....

[SalsaAmore]

I just wanted to share a story about an amazing dance connection of mine. There is this guy I've known and have been dancing with for some time. I would see him at one of the venues in my area a couple times a month when I go to it or when he goes there. He is the sweetest guy ever. And, when we dance it's magical. The first time I saw him dance, I thought he was original and really good. I was the first to initiate contact. Since then, whenever we would see eachother, we would ask eachother to dance several times in one night and we would just dance the night away together when most people have gone home and the dance floor would be ours. It is exhilirating and amazing to dance with him. The connection we feel with eachother is spellbinding.

For the past couple of months, I hadn't seen him much. Either, I would not go to that venue or he would not and we would miss eachother. I would be so depressed when I wouldn't get to see him and get to dance with him. I would tell my friends that my favorite dancer isn't here tonight and that I just wasn't happy tonight. It's just not the same. Recently, I broke up with someone I was seeing and having such a hard time with it. And, then I saw HIM again at another club and I was SOOOOO happy to see him. Whenever I see him he just makes my night dancing. Again, we danced together several times and I felt so happy each time we danced. Whenever I dance with him, it's like I can unlock the window to my soul. I can trust him so much that my spirit just rises and I can express myself in ways I don't find myself doing with anyone else. Our styles are different in dance, but our expression of dance is the same. We connect. We are in sync. When we move, each movement is complimented by one from the other. The room stands still and nothing around us matters. After the dance, we are happy, laughing and hugging and telling one another that that was amazing or awesome.

At the end of the night, going home with my friend, I told her I had an amazing night and it was attributed to seeing him and dancing with him. I was exhilirated and on a natural dancer's high. Just breaking up with my boyfriend, I blurted out, jokingly and said if he wasn't blah, blah, blah (reasons I won't reveal here), I would be soooo in love with him. But, I said, "No, not really, I wouldn't be." But, it's fun to think that way though. Off the dancefloor, I don't think I would be with him romantically for many reasons. But, especially, I feel like it's a platonic relationship off the dancefloor. But, he is an amazing dancer, the most sweetest and warmest guy and an amazing person in my life. We're like kindred spirits on the dancefloor. So, I am a little bewildered about this dance relationship and find that the connections we have on the dancefloor with certain people are a funny thing sometimes.

 

[Big10]

Off the dancefloor, I don't think I would be with him romantically for many reasons. But, especially, I feel like it's a platonic relationship off the dancefloor. But, he is an amazing dancer, the most sweetest and warmest guy and an amazing person in my life. We're like kindred spirits on the dancefloor. So, I am a little bewildered about this dance relationship and find that the connections we have on the dancefloor with certain people are a funny thing sometimes.

I'm sure that somebody soon will post links to the thread about dance "crushes" and/or similar topics. (I'm too tired to search for it myself now. ) Still, it's great to hear that you reconnected with yours!

 

[SalsaAmore]

I wouldn't really say that this is so much a dance crush as it is a wonderful dance relationship, friendship and an amazing connection. But, I guess you could say a dance crush in the context of the silliness I felt after the other night and feeling drunken with the dancer's high after dancing with him. I guess it isn't too surprising after my break up with my boyfriend and how feelings were intensified that night. I'm back on my feet and planted firmly again, though. It's kind of funny how the seratonin level goes crazy in the body after dancing Salsa and you feel all sorts of crazy, silly things.

 

[tacad]

It's kind of funny how the seratonin level goes crazy in the body after dancing Salsa and you feel all sorts of crazy, silly things.

That's for sure. :lol:

Oops! Did I say that out loud? :wink:

 

[Vin]

There have been times during dances when I have almost blurted out
"I love you" to the person I am dancing with. I am totally serious about that.

 

[africana]

WOW 8) beautifully written, and it didn't make me wanna blush

now that's my kinda passion!

I had one guy like that, sublime connection, but I haven't seen him in a while, plus just it got too giddy after a while so it's good I don't see him

(wow vin didn't know you could dial it up like that )

 

[Pacion]

Yes, I have on those dancefloor "love affairs". Doesn't happen often but when it does, it does not matter how crowded the dancefloor is, or how many people are on the sidelines, it just feels as if it is the two of you all alone

 

[MacMoto]

Off the dancefloor, I don't think I would be with him romantically for many reasons. But, especially, I feel like it's a platonic relationship off the dancefloor. But, he is an amazing dancer, the most sweetest and warmest guy and an amazing person in my life. We're like kindred spirits on the dancefloor. So, I am a little bewildered about this dance relationship and find that the connections we have on the dancefloor with certain people are a funny thing sometimes.

I'm sure that somebody soon will post links to the thread about dance "crushes" and/or similar topics. (I'm too tired to search for it myself now. )

Here's one...
http://www.dance-forums.com/viewtopic.php?t=5774

 

[africana]

Whenever I dance with him, it's like I can unlock the window to my soul. I can trust him so much that my spirit just rises

I was thinking about this part again, and how actually rare it is.

I don't remember the last time I let myself be that vulnerable with a dancer partner, probably never completely have, not like that. It just seems that there's no turning back once you get into this kind of intimacy, it links you strongly to someone I may not be ready to connect to like that. I guess I just believe in reserving certain emotional/spiritual boundaries for someone special, even if it's just a dance
but that's just me

 

[lynn]

I don't remember the last time I let myself be that vulnerable with a dancer partner, probably never completely have, not like that. It just seems that there's no turning back once you get into this kind of intimacy, it links you strongly to someone I may not be ready to connect to like that. I guess I just believe in reserving certain emotional/spiritual boundaries for someone special, even if it's just a dance
but that's just me

Wow, africana, that's completely what i wanted to say. But that's just b/c i don't quite like having emotional connections w/ the fellow dancers (this is strictly my opinion only while there are others who may feel that when you dance, you should let yourself go all the way)....

 

[africana]

I don't remember the last time I let myself be that vulnerable with a dancer partner, probably never completely have, not like that. It just seems that there's no turning back once you get into this kind of intimacy, it links you strongly to someone I may not be ready to connect to like that. I guess I just believe in reserving certain emotional/spiritual boundaries for someone special, even if it's just a dance
but that's just me

Wow, africana, that's completely what i wanted to say. But that's just b/c i don't quite like having emotional connections w/ the fellow dancers (this is strictly my opinion only while there are others who may feel that when you dance, you should let yourself go all the way)....

funny thing about it is that I still exude passion and sensuality, in fact that's the most frequent compliment I get, but it's just not attached to any particular partner

 

[lynn]

funny thing about it is that I still exude passion and sensuality, in fact that's the most frequent compliment I get, but it's just not attached to any particular partner

Is it because the passion & sensuality you feel is for the dance only and not directed at an individual??

 

[Sagitta]

I don't remember the last time I let myself be that vulnerable with a dancer partner, probably never completely have, not like that. It just seems that there's no turning back once you get into this kind of intimacy, it links you strongly to someone I may not be ready to connect to like that. I guess I just believe in reserving certain emotional/spiritual boundaries for someone special, even if it's just a dance
but that's just me

Wow, africana, that's completely what i wanted to say. But that's just b/c i don't quite like having emotional connections w/ the fellow dancers (this is strictly my opinion only while there are others who may feel that when you dance, you should let yourself go all the way)....

That is sad, in a way. Whenever I let myself go the experience is so amazing, such a high...so out of the world wonderful...

Salsalamore I can totally relate as there is this 18 year old in SYracuse, S, for which the same thing happens, and all thatw e have is dancing the first Friday of the month. That's it. Nothing else. 8) But, not for a few months as she is off to college and won't eb back until the January dance.

 

[lynn]

Sagitta, i guess for me personally, when i "let myself go", i unfortunately will feel an emotional attachment to that particular person - and not just on the dance floor (maybe it's a woman thing, but i'm not speaking for all woman) so that can be undesirable - esp when you're off the dance floor.

 

[africana]

funny thing about it is that I still exude passion and sensuality, in fact that's the most frequent compliment I get, but it's just not attached to any particular partner

Is it because the passion & sensuality you feel is for the dance only and not directed at an individual??

yes, the dance and the music primarily. I experience more connection with certain partners than others, but it's more a result of moving as one, reading each other well, but still doessn't entail "falling" for them necc.