Attn: Medira

[johnsnjr]

YES. Sometimes they even keep pressing when you give them a very valid excuse.

Case in point; this past Friday night. I was dancing a viennese waltz with my father, when I got stepped on by a woman's heel. It was accidental, it happens, but it hurt like mad because of where she stepped on me. After the dance, we went and sat down and I noticed my toe was bleeding. So, I grabbed the car keys to go and get the first aid kit from the trunk. When I stood up to go outside, a guy came over and asked me to dance. I declined and told him that I was just going out to the car to get a band aid, indicating my mess of a toe. Well, imagine my surprise when he yelled at me for turning him down! Then he had the nerve to ask again as I was making my way to the door! He kept on me until I was outside the front doors of the building. I was less than impressed and we left shortly after that.

This is an except to the rule. This guy was obviously crazy! Sorry you had to experience this. My statement was in regard to normal situations where a person is physically able to dance but rudely rejects a dance request. People tend to overlook the fact that my initial post and article talked about rude rejections and encounters. Nevertheless, I hope your foot heals.

J

 

[Medira]

johnsnjr:

I'm sorry if it sounded like I was responding in such a way to your original post. I realize that that isn't the situation you were describing. My response was actually written to address tacad's question, which he had posted just a few posts above mine in the thread...

I always wonder if women run into hassles if they don't give an excuse. Do some guys not take "no thank you" and just keep pressing?

I was just using my experience from Friday night to illustrate that it does happen sometimes, even when there is an obvious, valid reason for turning down the dance. What I posted wasn't done so with the intention of overlooking your original post, but merely to answer a question that arose as a result of your post. Again, I apologize if that didn't come across clearly.

Thanks for the well wishes for my foot though!

- M

 

[Chris Stratton]

My statement was in regard to normal situations where a person is physically able to dance but rudely rejects a dance request.

I think it's rude to ask until you've taken a minute to size up the person you are about to ask and decide if they look at least neutrally interested in dancing at the moment.

If the answer's obviously going to be no (or an 'obligation yes'), don't ask in the first place.