Awkward silences

[Ron Obvious]

Do you ever have awkward silences during dancing? What do you say?

I once said "This is the correct rhythm, right?" (even though I knew it was correct). That was a very stupid thing to say, it confused the lady.

 

[samina]

Do you ever have awkward silences during dancing? What do you say?

I once said "This is the correct rhythm, right?" (even though I knew it was correct). That was a very stupid thing to say, it confused the lady.

when is that you are usually talking?

 

[LucyDiamond]

Do you ever have awkward silences during dancing? What do you say?

I once said "This is the correct rhythm, right?" (even though I knew it was correct). That was a very stupid thing to say, it confused the lady.

Unless I know the person AND I know what I'm doing, I usually don't talk during social dancing. I'm usually concentating on following and dancing correctly. My partners haven't been much on talking either. We save our talking for in between dancing.

 

[DWise1]

The conversation during the dance is primarily non-verbal. Any silence during that conversation would be extremely awkward indeed.

 

[Sagitta]

give her a besito... ;-)

 

[DancinAnne]

Not typically. I chat with some and not so much with others. Depends on their skill level and personality. I don't mind either way.

 

[DancinAnne]

The conversation during the dance is primarily non-verbal. Any silence during that conversation would be extremely awkward indeed.

Very nice reply. And very true indeed.

 

[LucyDiamond]

The conversation during the dance is primarily non-verbal. Any silence during that conversation would be extremely awkward indeed.

Well said!

 

[samina]

The conversation during the dance is primarily non-verbal. Any silence during that conversation would be extremely awkward indeed.

truly.

some of my most loaded "conversations" have been while dancing and not a word spoken.

 

[Ron Obvious]

The conversation during the dance is primarily non-verbal. Any silence during that conversation would be extremely awkward indeed.

Yes, well I indicated non-verbally [and unintentionally] that I wanted to say something, so that's why I had to say something verbally.

 

[anp73ga31]

Like DancinAnne said, depends on the partner. Some I chat with because I've danced with them often enough that it doesnt require much thought. My instructor and other folks that I dance with where I am concentrating on the steps and following and my technique, I dont talk. I prefer it that way, actually. There's so many things at this point that I'm trying to remember to do all at once....

Long story short, dont feel like you have to talk. Some of us are perfectly happy just to be dancing with you without speaking. The dancing speaks for itself IMO.

 

[Genesius Redux]

Yeah, I'll sometimes gab when I'm on autopilot and dancing with someone I really know well. (Perfect time for gossip)

But if I'm really dancing with someone, I rarely talk--the communication is in the body and the response.

Dancing with a beginner, I never engage them in conversation. They get all messed up--which I'll admit sometimes makes me laugh because I can remember when I couldn't talk and dance at the same time....

 

[jhpark]

when i'd been taking lessons for a month or two, i was taking my first or second private, and the instructor offered me gum.

i learned that i couldn't dance and chew gum at the same time.

i probably could now, but i actually haven't tried it since

 

[fascination]

I don't talk unless: A) the guy is literally quaking or B) I am spoken to...and I do not need to be spoken to

 

[samina]

I don't talk unless: A) the guy is literally quaking or B) I am spoken to...and I do not need to be spoken to

my general approach as well... to my mind, beyond "international or american?" there's not much else required except for "what's your name" and words of encouragement or enjoyment