Being a young and handsome man in milongas?

wonderwoman said:
Ohhhh must be so hard being a handsome tango dancer. YEH RIGHT.
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Not that I'm calling myself particularly good-looking or skilled with dancing, but there have been times at (ballroom) social dances when I've felt a little hunted. Sometimes I've had to make sure not to sit in any one place for more than half a song, keep moving, and not make eye contact with any follower unless I mean it as a dance invitation.

Yup, if folks are going to tell me that this is in my head, a bad attitude, a nice problem to have, or the like -- look, I won't argue. When I was a total beginner I was miserable at socials because few people agreed to dance with me, and those that did (so I felt) couldn't possibly be enjoying it. It's a lot of fun now feeling comfortable dancing with lots of different people who have lots of different experience levels. But, I hope I won't seem arrogant if I say that I can see a way of looking at OP's question as a serious one.

BTW, this is one reason I'm a fan of mixers. Everyone gets the luck of the draw, there's no choosing or being chosen, and anybody who wants to sit out is left to his/her own devices for the duration.
 
DL said:
Not that I'm calling myself particularly good-looking or skilled with dancing, but there have been times at (ballroom) social dances when I've felt a little hunted..
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And OF COURSE, as soon as I hit send for my last post, DL had to go and make me a liar.
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wadpro said:
Imagine that you are 30 years old and you are the cutest guy in a milonga and you are also one of the best dancers in the that milonga
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Zoopsia59 said:
You do realize don't you that you won't get a single serious answer to this post? :razz:
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While I can imagine myself (at a trim 275 pounds) being the cutest guy, I'm still having problems seeing myself as the best dancer.

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DL - Except thats a perfectly reasonable way to ask that question. You chalked it up to being talented, tried to stay away from saying 'man im so good looking', and posed a question of etiquette. That doesn't sound arrogant at all.

But when the question involves saying 'Im the most handsome and talented person in the entire milonga, what should i do to fight off all the ladies' you have to expect at least a few good natured jabs. Although I think Wadpro took my comment as an insult rather than a friendly yuk. I'm really not sure how to answer that seriously.
Im sorry, try showering less often? Also why should it matter if the ladies are older?
 
Gregolam -- I understand exactly what you're saying. I was just trying to suggest that perhaps OP's question has elements that are worthy of exploration, aside from anyone's judgment of how it was worded; and to figure out how to identify and focus on those elements.
 
On a slightly more serious note:
wadpro said:
Being the most beautiful girl in milonga is very easy. Almost every men dance with you even if you are a beginner and you cant even sit on your chair for just 5 minutes and you get tired of dancing.
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This is true. But you'll also probably find that the better leaders will choose to dance with the better followers. If they bother with beginners, it's only to chat them up.

Hence the vast amount of attention received by many female follower tourists in BsAs, for example.

wadpro said:
How about being handsome man in a milonga? Do you think this is a good thing? Imagine that you are 30 years old and you are the cutest guy in a milonga and you are also one of the best dancers in the that milonga, every women want to dance with you and they are always looking at you with a smile. If you dont dance with those women who are looking at your eyes, they probably wont look at your eyes with a smile again. What would you do? Would you feel any pressure on yourself?
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I'd dance with the people I wanted to dance with. I wouldn't choose to dance with the people I didn't want to dance with.

I'm mystified as to why lots of people find this concept so difficult to grasp... :confused:
 
Not if the goal is to get women to smile at you less often and stop chasing after you for dances! Or perhaps you would prefer a slightly less radical approach: simply ditch the pre-milonga mints.
 
Subliminal said:
Personally, I find showing up at the milonga with no shirt and an oiled chest solves all problems. If they get offended that you aren't dancing with them all you have to do is flex a little, and they swoon.
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rolflmao... now that would be a sight. :)
 
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